Tamara Rant – Break the Chains – How to No Longer Be a Prisoner of Your Past – 5-111-15

TamaraRant-150x150I realized something not too long ago and that was that it so great to have dreams and aspirations. They give you hope, something to look forward to and to plan. Dreams can help you align your gifts and talents with those things you absolutely love to do the most, so that you can bring to fruition a living that you never have to consider to be “a job”. To me THAT is the definition of success.

With this realization, I also took in the understanding that you can’t always keep your dreams “out there” in front of you. You must bring them in close, into your heart, into your reality and beliefs and most importantly you must welcome them into your NOW.

When we keep dreams as a proverbial carrot dangling in front of us, sure they may keep us moving, or they may just keep us daydreaming and growing ever resentful of those around us that took steps we haven’t yet. There’s a certain safety in always having our dreams out in the distance. It comforting to know we always have that goal to strive for and deep down it might terrify people to actually reach the horizon and achieve that goal, because then what do we do? Actually enjoy our lives? :)

This is where anxiety stems from…straying from the present moment into a future of uncertainty or one that you have convinced yourself is full of impending doom or failure. Sadly, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy if we do not become aware of it.

Just as our perceptions of what the future holds are subconsciously tied to the faith we have in ourselves to make the choices needed to get us there, we need to consider how our perceptions of our past can act to limit or alter just how many steps we take or even attempt to take towards ever creating that future we dream of.

I often say that the stories we tell ourselves cause us the most suffering. It is not usually situations that are necessarily good or bad per se, but the stories we tell ourselves about them and the judgement we create in our minds. When we convince ourselves those things just ARE this way or that, not only are we limiting ourselves to having to now navigate within the constraints of a small box, but we are also putting ourselves in the equivalent position of getting into a car with no steering wheel.

We may not stop to consider how damaging or hindering our own thoughts about things, people, and events from our past can affect not only our present lives but our future as well. If we hold onto guilt, regret, anger, or shame for things we did or didn’t do; things others said or didn’t say, it is US that keep ourselves locked in a prison in our own minds. And oftentimes, if we just simply revisit these events we have tortured ourselves with for so long, we may see them in a completely different light.

Can we KNOW for sure that the way we perceived the events actually did happen the way we keep replaying them in our heads after all these years? Did the person really mean it the way we took it? Hanging onto these perceptions and stories; this is where depression can come from that feed our insecurities and fill our minds with the “what-if’s” and “I should have done this or said that”. Our past is meant to be our teacher and while the lessons are often painful they are what add to your integrity and strength.

There are so many factors that allow us to justify our hanging onto things from our past, like we are doing something to get back at the other person. Or that it’s benefiting us in some way not to let it go and move on. But what we don’t often realize is that forgiveness is never about the other person. Forgiveness is so YOU can have peace; it has nothing to do with them. And letting go and moving on, doesn’t mean you are a sucker or had one done over on you. It means you simply respect and love yourself enough to cherish your own peace of mind. You are confident that you deserve to be happy and that nothing anyone has ever done or said to you is ever worth losing your smile.

This is not to suggesting we all become unemotional robots; not in the least. To experience the full spectrum of emotion is human and is, in my opinion, a beautiful thing (yes even the sad or “negative” emotions). What I am saying is that all emotions serve their purpose and that is ALL they are there to do. To serve their purpose and be let go of. If we sit with emotions too long, they begin to consume us.

Happiness is NOT an emotion; it is a state of BEING. It cannot exist anywhere but inside you and cannot be found in another person or in a future time; yet that is where most of are conditioned to look for it. Joy IS an emotion and like all others is fleeting and temporary and the trick is to learn to ride the wave of emotion that comes with life. Happiness isn’t some destination in the future that we need to strive to get to. It is a state of being that we either choose for ourselves or we don’t and regardless of what is ever going on, we always have that choice – no one can take that away from us.

If we are always thinking that happiness comes from or is taken away by others, guess where it will always be? Just out of reach. No wonder so many of us are so guarded, untrusting or on edge! Yet, once we realize that happiness is there within us at all times, smoldering like embers in those unique gifts we haven’t yet gotten the courage to share with the world, we no longer see the world as a place we need to compare, compete or conquer.

I say, the key to unlocking our self-inflicted prison is merely self-love. Once you learn to love yourself, the door appears. Once you get the courage to approach the door with the intention to explore what lies on the other side, you will then be anointed with the key. The funny thing is, the key was within your own heart the whole time.

We ARE our greatest dream. And the greatest day of your life will be the day you find out.

“Break the Chains: How to No Longer Be a Prisoner of Your Past”, by Tamara Rant, May 2, 2015 at http://consciouslifenews.com/break-chains-longer-be-prisoner/1184881/

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Tamara Rant – Entering the Heart Space – How a Micro Shift Can Make a Macro Difference – 4-28-15

By Tamara Rant, Conscious Life News, April 27, 2015

I have the pleasure of seeing Cell Biologist, Bruce Lipton speak at a lecture next month and in celebration of that, I thought I’d write about two of my favorite inter-mingling topics: Living in the Heart Space and the power of belief. Bruce Lipton is perhaps most well-known for his book entitled, “The Biology of Belief” which astutely tears apart the paradigm that we are victims of our genes and heredity. It is a book that has forever changed my life.

Simply put, when one is living in the Heart Space, you are connected to your mind, body and spirit at all times, and keep the awareness of what each needs at all times at the forefront of your consciousness. You face the world with compassion and love, rather than distance, fear or indifference. You feel grounded, not flighty. You feel secure, loved and confident that you are cared for, not like you must struggle to survive, or compete to get where want to be (at the expense of others). And this simple shift in belief, in mindset can literally make all the difference in the world; it can literally be the defining line between life and death.

We’ve all heard stories of “miraculous” healings before; those incredible tales of people who were destined for an early demise, but instead somehow beat death without any reasonable explanation. How is this possible? Are they just “lucky?” Did their immune systems have some freak mega-boost? Were the misdiagnosed? Perhaps…But science now backs up the fact that it is our thoughts and our beliefs surrounding ourselves and our situations that ultimately define the outcome. Sure, outlying factors will always play a role, but the power of our own minds has been so severely down-played that it is, well…mind-boggling to know what we are truly capable of regarding healing ourselves.

Take for example the story of Vittorio Michelli who had a large tumor on his hip and whose doctors said there was nothing they could do for him. He traveled to Lourdes, France and bathed in the famous “healing springs” there. His simple belief in the healing properties of this place, (some could also say the collective energy of so many other people believing as well) started shrinking his tumor, until 10 months later it was completely gone. Read about Vittorio’s story here along with more information on how our thoughts determine reality.

We’ve also heard stories of otherwise healthy people who went for a simple check-up, only to be given 2 months to live and like clock-work check out 8 weeks later. Sometimes these stories are so bizarre as family members are shocked stating they always took such good care of themselves, or were always so happy, etc. But once we accept something we are told as our own personal truth, the body believes it as well, and our thoughts do have the power to make it a reality, whether we ever really had the death sentence of a disease to begin with at all. This is also how we explain the placebo effect; it all lies with the power of belief.

We must consider the influence on our bodies (mental, spiritual and physical) by what we are told by others as well as what we are communicating through our own thoughts. Emotions have energy; you can literally feel when someone throws an angry tone your way regardless of the actual words they chose to use. This is why we often hear that it’s not so much what you say, but how you say it. And the thoughts we repetitively think are what ultimately shape our beliefs; about ourselves and about the world around us.

This brings us back to the Heart Space and why it’s so important to maintain a daily practice to make conscious choices from this space; especially when it comes to your health. As it only takes a moment to think a thought, it only takes one more to change a thought into something positive and something that better serves your truth and authenticity. So, remember that next time you tell yourself negative stories about your body or self-image; even your intelligence. They are more damaging that you think.

Instead be kind to yourself and always keep in your heart the truth that you are a work in progress doing the best with what you know right now in this moment. When you think from your truth, you give yourself the chance to act from your truth and this will allow you to resonate will love and move forward with power and grace; which will automatically open your heart. This is the key to loving yourself and ultimately loving the world you live in.

“The little space within the heart is as great as the vast universe.
The heavens and the earth are there, and the sun and the moon and the stars. Fire and lightening and winds are there, and all that now is and all that is not.” ― Swami Prabhavananda, The Upanishads: Breath from the Eternal

Check out these other great articles on living in the heart:

Gregg Braden on Living in the Heart, Beauty, Compassion, Healing, the Master Plan, and more

How to Use Your Heart Wisdom

TamaraRantTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. Connect with Tamara on Facebook by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

Tamara posts new original articles to CLN every Saturday.

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