DANIEL SCRANTON – Romantic Relationships Are Changing ∞ The 9D Arcturian Council


“There needs to be balance.There needs to be communication … and there need to be boundaries”


DANIEL SCRANTON – Romantic Relationships Are Changing ∞ The 9D Arcturian Council

“Greetings. We are the Arcturian Council. We are pleased to connect with all of you.

We are very excited about the progress that we see you all making in your relationships with one another. There has been a greater understanding within the human collective consciousness about the boundaries that are necessary in a relationship, as well as the need for communication and the expression of feelings. This has increased in recent months on your world. It is becoming more common knowledge that emotions are important and that they need to be discussed.

You also became aware as a collective some time ago about the need for independence and the problematic nature of co-dependence. And so, we see you all moving towards healthier relationships where you understand that neither of you is supposed to complete the other.

You are also getting more fluid and flexible in your ideas about gender, and that means the man, or the masculine one in the relationship, doesn’t necessarily have to be the sole provider, or even the one who makes the majority of the money. And we are talking about relationships where there is one who identifies as male or masculine. Certainly there are relationships where both parties identify as feminine, and certainly relationships are very present where both parties are in female bodies, but we are just using the masculine and male example here to illustrate a point.

And so, when you are more flexible about who does the laundry and who does the dishes, you have a more cooperative relationship where you discuss these things. You don’t have to go into a relationship with an understanding that, these tasks over here go to you because of your gender identity, and these tasks over here go to me because of my gender identity. Instead, we are seeing the progressive way of thinking about what is male and masculine, or what is male and feminine, and so on is being questioned, and you all are giving yourselves the opportunity to express how you want to physically.

Now, traditionally you would have the individual who identifies as more feminine being the one who expresses emotion, and the one who identifies as more masculine being the one who is the strong and silent type, holds it all in, and doesn’t have time for emotions. This is a problematic experience for everyone involved, and it is one whose time is up, because people in all walks of life now are recognizing the importance of communication and the expression of feelings.

You also have seen over the timeframe in which you have been exploring different types of romantic relationships the tendency for one person to quote/unquote ‘wear the pants in the family.’ And what that has translated to for many is that one person is dominant and the other one is a doormat. We are seeing less and less of you putting up with a dominant partner.

And all that we are saying now extends beyond romantic relationship and into relationships between siblings and friends and all sorts of different types of relationships that you have. There needs to be balance. There needs to be communication and there need to be boundaries at times when one person is attempting to assert a level of dominance over the other.

So having all of these understandings makes for better relationships with each other and brings you closer to knowing yourselves as whole, complete, sovereign beings who can express yourselves, no matter who or what you identify as. And this is good for all of humankind, not just the high divorce rate that you have amongst married couples. This is good for all types of relationships, and this is something that will continue to evolve as you evolve.

And when you see relationships changing and shifting, you can rest assured that it is due to an uptick in your overall vibration as a human collective. These are very encouraging things that we see, and we are very much looking forward to where you all go next.

We are the Arcturian Council, and we have enjoyed connecting with you.”

Channeled by Daniel Scranton

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Bernhard Guenther – Compassionate Mirroring In Relationships – 10-8-18 – How To Exit The Matrix

Compassionate Mirroring In Relationships

 

How To Exit The Matrix

By Bernhard Guenther

Veil of Reality.com

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We all need feedback and reflection sometimes from a good friend about some stuff we are going through on a personal level because there is only so much self-work you can do by “yourself”. We all have blind spots and can’t see ourselves fully objectively. Most unconscious stuff only comes up in relationship (not just the romantic kind).

Compassionate mirroring is especially needed in a “conscious relationship” with an intimate partner which goes way beyond just enjoying “romance”. I’m very grateful to my partner Laura that we are able to hold space for each other that way and dive deep with compassion, love and emotional vulnerability in a safe/sacred container, never forgetting/losing the connection to the Divine/the true self. It is the most important foundation in a “conscious” relationship where unconscious stuff tends to come up, ironically – brought to light – which is the whole point of a “conscious” relationship. It’s like an alchemical catalyst that heals both partners and strengthens the relationship via transmuting it into “higher” expressions of love each time and the bond grows stronger.

However, what is also needed is a strong foundation of collinearity beyond mutual “interests” or “personality traits” but a spiritual foundation where both people “look into the same direction” with a common aim. It also all depends on both partner’s level of being and how each person is SINCERELY engaged in their own self-work as individuals and the work they have already done in the past.

“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”
– Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

It is important that the other person (friends, partner) we confide in and ask for feedback is also sincerely engaged in the same work with a basic understanding of psychology and archetypal relationship dynamics (not just the romantic kind), such as shadow projection, childhood wounding (everyone is wounded to one degree of another because no one had perfect parents that were 100% available all the time attending to your needs) and how childhood wounding affects the present unconsciously.

Other factors come in as well, such as occult interferences, psychic attacks, related to the “topic of all topics”. But the basic foundation is the deeper inner work, because occult entities work through our wounding, blind spots and ego hooks which they feed off of. This is the Archonic/Wetiko alien infection (Paul Levy), Castaneda’s predator, Sri Aurobindo’s occult hostile forces or the General Law in the esoteric christian tradition, etc., trying to keep us plugged into the Matrix. We cut off their food source through sincere self-work and not becoming slaves to our emotional mechanical reactions and triggers. It’s also important to establish the inner witness in order to observe ourselves. This is a very different state then “getting into ones head”. It’s about being present on all levels, body, mind, emotion, and spirit. A trusted friend/partner can help us with that.

If we confide in or seek feedback from someone who is not engaged in sincere self-work and doesn’t understand basic psychology or how occult forces “operate” and influence us, then the feedback we receive might only strengthen our false self, the buffers with all the ego-mind’s justifications or they may put us down via shadow projections. Everyone wants to feel good, but sincere self-work is a destructive process. It entails confronting all the lies we’ve been telling ourselves, our wounds we have buffered up, our entitlement of what we think we want and need from others, our expectations, etc. Diving deep into the self can be very disturbing and challenging, causing physical and emotional pain, especially when we receive mirrors from others that point out issues in ourselves we never really saw before. But the person giving the mirror needs to be aware of the issue of projection, so the mirror is not a disguised shadow projection, hence, again, we need someone who has this understanding and is SINCERELY engaged in the work him/herself. But most importantly is for us to look into the mirror ourselves and ask: How sincere am I?

In order to do self-work we also need to know HOW to do it and that entails study and reading as well. Our mind and emotions can fool us so much. There is no way we can just “feel”, “meditate” or “think” ourselves through it without knowledge of how to do self-work, be it esoteric or psychological knowledge. We may get glimpses of insights here and there, but we can still fool ourselves without being aware of it if we don’t have a “higher context”, over-estimating ourselves in the process, even possibly engaging in spiritual bypassing. Moreover, knowledge needs to be applied. We all can have great insights and get inspired when we are reading some spiritual/psychological quotes/books when we are in a good place/space, but when the rubber hits the road and stuff comes up we sometimes tend to forget what we just learned and almost regress to the wounded child and the false personality and we literally forget ourselves – our true self. Again, a trusted friend/partner can help us stay “on track”, like being “alarm clocks” to each other as Gurdjieff said.

So, receiving feedback from others can make things better or worse. Many factors come on. If it makes us feel better, it does not necessarily mean that the feedback is true, but can feed our neurotic narcissistic ego, bypassing what needs to be confronted. Likewise if the feedback we get hurts something in us, it doesn’t necessarily mean that this is not true or that the other person is trying to hurt us. We have an astonishing ability to fool ourselves, lie to ourselves and feel justified in our “likes” and “dislikes” hardly questioning what “I” is speaking at any given moment, the true self or the conditioned/wounded self. Shocks and disillusionment are part of the process.

Obviously positive re-enforcement and encouraging the other person is very much needed as well, if it comes from a sincere place. Not all mirrors are about pointing out our “wounded” blindspots but also about bringing to light the other person’s soul-embodied power, joy, talents and inspirations – to truly SEE the other person. The work never stops either but all there is are lessons. There is also no end to love.

Read more about relationships on Bernhard’s website, Piercing the Veil of Reality.

 

 

Redefining Relationships – 7 Essential Qualities for Evolved Relating – Openhand —7-6-18 – via dreamweaver333

Courtesy of Wake Up World

July 6th, 2018 By Open

Contributing writer for Wake Up World

The shift is challenging relationships to evolve.

Our consciousness shift is hotting up.

People are unwinding, unfolding and breaking free

from aeons of constraint.

It’s a truly wonderful movement to behold.

I feel blessed to be here during these times  …

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JANET EILEENE @ IN5D – Cutting Past And Present Cords In Relationships – 5-12-18

by Janet Eileene,   Guest writer, In5D.com

Thanks to   https://in5d.com/cutting-past-and-present-cords-in-relationships/

Relationship cord cutting is a powerful healing tool to release the toxic flow between two people, a job or virtually any relationship past or present.

This process is a means to cut cords that bind you with another person.  The longer the cord is running between you and your partner or ex-partner the harder it is to not repeat what didn’t work the first time.  Intimacy creates cords and connects two people in either extremely satisfying ways or abusive patterns.  I recommend cutting cords to all past and present lovers.  The way the cord connects you and someone else leaves an easy medium to send things back and forth and usually not in a healthy manner.

We can also cut the cords on current relationships to shift the toxins out in order to renew and keep the energy clear between you.  This makes for a balanced exchange free of past hurts and blames.  By having an opportunity to talk to each other from a higher-self perspective and say what needs said without the confrontation.

The basic procedure involves the person you would like to cut to standing about 10 feet in front of you.  You are facing each other.  See the cord that is running between you.  I have seen ones 5 feet across and 6 feet in diameter to just a thread.  It will depend on what all is there between you on the size of the cord.  You will need to state the intent to cut the cord and you can name the reasons if you choose to.  I recommend you also include past and future lives that are affecting you now.  You are cutting the cord and the other being does not have to participate but the cord will be cut regardless.  Choose scissors, a knife, a sword, a chain saw if it is really big or anything else that will do the job of cutting this cord right down the middle.   The cord is cut and the ends fall to the ground and start releasing all the toxins, pain, and content that use to flow back and forth between the two of you.  Being attached made you send things back and forth that most likely had nothing to do with nurturing or creating a loving relationship.  Watch the toxins pour out and be transmuted as you see the cords start to get smaller.

Go to higher-self level and ask to speak to the other person’s higher-self.  Now both of you back up 2-3 feet.  As you do, observe to make sure there are not any more cords that show up now that the large one is cut.  As you move the person back from you, sometimes you start to see a whole other network of cords that need cut.  Start using your knife, sword or other cutting tool to cut these cords off of you as you turn in a circle, check overhead, under feet and on your back.  Keep cutting until it feels there are no more to cut.  These cords will also drain and shrink in size as they release the energy that bound you to the other person.

Move the other person back another 5 feet and check again to see if everything has been cut.  Repeat the steps again if you find anything else.  Then from the higher-self perspective say what you need to say to the other person and they can say to you what needs to be said.  Sometimes it is not possible to forgive the actions of another or make what they did ok but you can forgive them to free yourself to move on.  When you forgive them, you forgive yourself and release yourself from the cord that bound you in repeating patterns that no longer serve you.  When you have said what is needed, ask that their higher-self to take them to where they can finish the healing process and heal where the cords were hooked in.

When the other person is gone, step into your own sacred space of healing and ask that all the cords that are now dried up be removed and the hooks or anchors be dissolved forever.  Fill these pockets of empty holes with the sacred light of healing.  When there are large cords the cavity will be filled with the healing light that is appropriate for you.  Sometimes you will be taken to a place and asked to remain in the healing space for a period of time so all the spaces are filled and the re-balancing is complete.

When the process is complete be sure to give gratitude for the help during the process and then slowly go about getting up and going about your day.  You will be amazed at how much lighter you feel.  You took control of your life and changed yourself through the process.  This can be done as many times as you need to with the other relationships be it, the same person again, family, situation or job.

We get tangled up in the cords that tie us to each other.  Everyone is responsible for creating the energy and the life they want to lead.  Cords keep us connected to thinking that what we want is outside of ourselves and someone else is responsible for giving it to us.   Freeing your energy keeps your power and strength available for your own use.  So get the scissors, knife, sword, or chain saw out and cut the cords to freedom.

About the authorIf you would like assistance with this cord cutting process, please e-mail or go to my website.  Janet brings her own tool belt of cutting equipment!  www.Starflowerconsulting.com  | Starflowerconsulting@gmail.com

TINY BUDDHA – How to Be Whole on Your Own – How This Strengthens Your Relationships – by Linda Carroll – 1-16-18

 

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.” ~Harriet Lerner

Three decades ago, I married the man with whom I knew I would spend the rest of my life. We each had a rough childhood and had learned a lot about surviving, defending, and protecting ourselves. However, we did not know much about how to maintain a successful relationship.

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We took numerous classes on communication, learned to fight fair, and filled our goodwill bank accounts with lots of positive actions. However, despite our best efforts, something was still missing.

There were times that the relationship felt smothering, and new types of problems kept arising. I got sick of saying “we” all of the time instead of “I.” Once when I was sick and slept in a different room, I was equally fascinated and worried by how much I enjoyed being by myself.

Yes, we had learned to reconnect, to repair our troubles, and to deepen our intimacy. However, we had not yet figured out the crucial step necessary for keeping your relationship healthy.

When it comes to love, we have two essential tasks. One, as most of us know, is to learn the skills and practices that allow relationships to thrive. The other lesson is less familiar to most people, but it is even more important. We must also learn how to love ourselves.

By self-love, I do not refer to the type of vanity that is fed by money, power, influence, a gym-toned body, and the admiration of others. What I mean is the kind of love that leads to self-care, not only of our physical health but also of our minds and hearts.

It’s the kind of love that creates for ourselves the time and space to develop and to use our talents. It’s the kind of love that frees us to discover and to foster our true purpose in life.

To become truly wholehearted in our loving, we have to look at when we have acted in a “half-hearted” manner and when have we been “closed-hearted.” Also, we have to examine when it is that we have responded in a “hard-hearted” way.

Our biggest challenge is to achieve the “whole” in wholehearted. In order to love anyone in a wholehearted way, we need to make ourselves whole first. We must integrate the two forces—the “me” and the “we.”

Let me be clear about the three things that are not wholeness:

  • A constant state of happiness
  • An ongoing state of acceptance, love, and balance
  • A perpetual feeling of well-being

Wholeness truly means accepting “the whole enchilada.” The hard, the sad, the mad, the scared, and the glad are all parts of you. The gratitude and the resentment together make you whole.

Your acceptance of all the pieces of yourself makes you whole. Here are five practices that can each help us find our wholeness.

1. Spend quality time with yourself.

I once heard someone say that spending time with yourself is the greatest practice you can do, and I didn’t understand at the time what the speaker meant.

While alone, I always felt like I was “by myself.” I mistook being alone for loneliness. It took me years to discover the pleasure of walking in nature, exploring an art museum, or hanging out at a farmer’s market loving my own company as much as with another person.

2. Each day, check to make sure your self-esteem is balanced by your self-criticism.

People sometimes mistake self-love for self-indulgence. Challenging myself when I am not living up to my own standards is important, but it must be done with compassion. Learning to love yourself despite your imperfections allows you to accept other people’s imperfections.

3. Find a practice that centers you.

Sitting in a lotus position and concentrating on breathing allows some people to find focus; there are also other practices like Zen meditation, walking meditation, Vipanassa meditation, and many more.

In addition, there are methods of centering that are just as powerful for self-reflection; dance, art, writing, and prayer are just a few examples. What they all have in common is that we can use them to check in.

4. Take an inventory of where you are right now. Explore it in your mind.

Body: Am I satisfied with the ways I nourish my body? How can I make even better choices? Examine your nutrition, exercise for strength, flexibility, endurance, and cardiac wellness as well as all of the other kinds of self-care you can practice.

Mind: Am I feeling fed, challenged, expanded, and interested? Am I growing?

Spirit: Am I satisfied with the definition I have for spirit? How can I get more in touch my spirit? Is there a place within me where I can find peacefulness, wisdom, and guidance?

Emotional: How am I coping with my current challenges? Is there a flow of different feelings, or do I find myself stuck on one emotion? Do I feel balanced?

Social: How am I connected with the people in my life (family, friends, partner, coworkers)? What’s working, and where do I want to make changes?

5. Develop a daily gratitude practice and begin by showing yourself appreciation.

Ask yourself about the victories you have had during the week. Acknowledge when you did something that was brave. Thank yourself for taking the time to feel gratitude.

As you explore these five techniques, you might discover others. You will find you already have wholeness inside; you just have to find the keys to open the door.

When we feel good about ourselves, we’re more likely to feel generous toward others; it’s a symbiotic relationship. We feel grounded and centered enough to take risks and to reach out to others. We feel safe by acknowledging our shortcomings and forgiving ourselves, so we are able to open up to our partners wholeheartedly.

About Linda Carroll

Linda Carroll—MS, is a writer, psychotherapist and a love/life coach specializing in relationship issues of all kinds for both singles and couples, assisting people in their life transitions. Sign up for a free 15 minute coaching session or her free newsletter at www.lindaacarroll.com.You can order her book Love Cycles; The Five Essential Stages of Wholehearted Love on amazon.

LISA RENEE – Mastering Relationships Practice – 11-30-17 – by dreamweaber333

LISA RENEE

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These times are very explosive with sudden changes that force rapid transformation unexpectedly, and this can be very painful for many people that are undergoing tremendous amounts of pressure and stress in their lives. Very few people on the earth have the proper context to apply the knowledge of planetary ascension and understand how this massive event is directly impacting their lives thereby dismantling ego and obsolete structures. Thus, when we are feeling more stressed we may react too quickly and say things coming from impulses that we may regret later. Therefore, let us remember to take extra care to be kind and to proceed slowly with conscious thought and reflection within our interactions with others, and attempt to hold all of our communications with special care, to intend to be clear, kind and compassionate even in the most stressful and confusing of situations. May we find the inner stillness and peace that enables us to feel unconditional love in order to support each of us to reconnect with the deepest part of our own inner light and heart, in so that we begin to  live as free, authentic and creative source beings once again. For I Am God. I Am Sovereign and I Am Free!

Source:   https://www.energeticsynthesis.com/resource-tools/blog-timeline-shift/3251-mastering-relationships-practice

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This is true for every person at all times and this law is upheld for all without exception. All people deserve to know the inner truth of their own heart and soul, and to be able to live on the earth free of fear and free of suffering. During these intense times of shifting, let’s try to not create any more pain or dramas within the community or between ourselves. This is what it means to be gentle with our hearts and to be gentle with each other. In light of these challenging circumstances, we all can benefit from improving our compassionate communication skills, improving our relating skills personally, and interpersonally. As we shift from individuated personality consciousness to merge towards unity in diversity within a group consciousness setting, we will find many communication challenges in the group dynamics that we may find ourselves. Whether its family groups, professional groups, social groups, spiritual groups, community groups, online groups, we will need to find better ways to master communications within any of these relationships. As a result of the need to find ways to open mutual dialogues within diverse and polarizing view points, this is a skill set that will go a long way to serve not only our personal mission, but support every aspect of our lives. We all can benefit from improving our communication skills, to commit to be relationally safe people, kind people, and compassionate people that refuse to direct more of the negative energy that is being transmitted and stirred up by the Controllers and the NAA at this time to feed division and invoke fear.

With that in mind we set forth a few guidelines to remember when communicating with others or relating with others, in our community or in any area of your life. Choosing Service to Others based communication guidelines through the desire to gain mastery in all relationships will create much greater ease in all of the interpersonal relationships that you have. So let’s review some of these basic guidelines of mastering relationships and working with these guidelines every day, so that we can improve our self mastery and improve our compassionate communication skills.

#1: Self-Responsibility. Being able to own your own emotional conflicts without blame or projection upon another person by making it their fault. Do not assume that you know anything about that person that can be judged for what you cannot see or really know about them, as you have not walked in their shoes. When feeling upset towards somebody else, restore balance to your heart and aura by lovingly holding boundaries without violating others boundaries, by expecting them to resolve your conflict. Be willing and open to learn what the real issue is that has created the conflict. As most of the time, we’re upset about something deep down from our own inner fears and it’s not what it appears to be. By going deeper and reflecting on forgiveness of ourselves and forgiveness of others, while allowing the time and space needed to heal, helps to neutralize the conflict in most cases.

#2: Conservation. Being able to discern the right use of action harnesses precious time and life force so that we can all be more effective and impactful in our lives. Cultivate the wisdom of knowing when to engage and when not to engage with others in conflicting circumstances or dramas. No person needs to justify their existence or choices to another person or really needs to care what other people think of them. Attempt to stay clear of emotional drama or emotional tantrums by not engaging with them. It means that you do not feed the drama to escalate into chaos or further disruption. Dark energies and dark forces use emotional drama to instigate schisms and chaos between yourself and others. Making all of us especially in this spiritual family less effective by scattering our energies and generating more confusion. When we learn to conserve our energy, it means we have a stronger focus and one becomes more effective and productive in their lives. When we learn conservation skills, we actually gain more resources and a deeper connection with our spiritual source. If we waste time and we waste energy, we reach an energy threshold that cannot be increased or circulated. This potentially drains us and therefore dissipates the positive influence and positive frequencies we intended to circulate back into the environment. When we are scattered with our personal energies, this makes us less effective and impactful in the world.

#3: Learning how to Respond. In the moment, learn how to choose your response rather than react to life events, people and challenging circumstances. Reaction and impulses are subconscious programming and it mostly operates from a preconceived idea of fear or mind control. Observe the reactions inside of your body, in regard to yourself and others, and ask your body to show you the story of where the impulses are coming from. The memory that is behind the subconscious program of that reaction. As one learns to enquire about the reactions that you automatically generate, much is learned about our body consciousness and this can effectively be healed and cleared from continuing the reaction or trigger. Emotional catharsis techniques and much of the ES Core Triad practices include several steps to help release the story, clearing the memory from the body so it can return to a new pattern which is free of automatic and reactive pain. Choosing forgiveness, choosing kindness, choosing compassion and working on choosing self-love and self-acceptance is all a decision one has the power to make in every moment. By choosing your responses, you are gaining control over your self.

#4: Reverence. All beings have the right to exist and to co-exist. By learning there are mutual benefits present between all relationships and by respecting each person’s right to exist is a demonstration of reverence for life. Reverence for life force and for God force in all of its aspects and in all of its permutations. We choose to avoid behaviors of criticism or presumption, or being disrespectful with harmful accusations in order to gain control or to manipulate others, such as by giving unsolicited advice or placing demands. Learn to live and let live.

#5: Humility. By knowing our place in the universe and the role we play, one acts in humility, knowing that all is a part of the God source. All is equal in the love of God and no being, no person is judged as better or worse, higher or valued more than any other. By acting from humility and from devoting yourself to spiritual service when you are called upon to do something, this is an action of stewardship in humility that you accept the job given. There is no self-entitlement given in spiritual service. Entitlement is a distortion of spiritual ambition and negative ego that feels superior to others. And if self-entitlement is left unchecked in leadership, it will result in a correction or what is known as a root downfall.

#6: Discernment. Without using ego judgment test the personal resonance of people, events and circumstances that you choose to engage with or exchange with, determining which is either aligned to your person or not aligned to your person, in that moment. There is no right or wrong answer, only personal resonance and choice. That answer may change continually in different timelines depending on when you ask the question and what powers of discernment are cultivated. Learning personal discernment builds our necessary boundaries to discover what is productive and supportive for fulfilling our spiritual path or not. Discernment allows for continual productive growth and for the effective use of our personal energies and focused attention. By upholding our personal boundaries and applying discernment towards all things that we focus our energy and our attention upon, we are more effectively managing our consciousness and life force.

#7 Direct Knowing. By feeling in the moment what the energy is communicating, or what the environment is communicating to you, suspend linear thought and surrender mental chatter to feeling of what you know in that present moment of time. This is direct knowing, breathing in the moment, feeling the energy signature in the environment will open our higher senses to allow the energy to give our body impressions and information without words. When being present, higher knowing becomes connected with you at all times. What you know now in this moment is all you will ever need to move forward. Breathe and take in what is in front of you now as direct knowing. Every moment in the feeling of the direct knowing will be available to you in the present. Generally, we know much more in the feeling of the moment, than we mentally acknowledge ourselves for. Pay attention to what is in front of you. What does now feel like. Let the energy and the feeling response give information and insight to your heart and intuitive feelings.

#8 Surrender. By being present in the moment, and surrendering to the now, judgments and future expectations of others are completely dissolved. Every connection or personal contact holds an opportunity for growth and learning. Attempt to neutralize polarity thinking and division by asking for the deeper meaning, the needed change or lesson of growth that is inherent in a circumstance, especially one that appears or feels painful to you. Surrendering to the now moment and feeling the feelings, while holding unconditional love allows greater acceptance to neutralize painful or confusing situations. If we constrict in a defensive posture or hold on to defend the situation, it amplifies the negativity of that situation and makes that situation vulnerable to interference and superimposed wills. Learn to let go, and let God.

#9 Be True to You. Honor your entire being and honor your life force, inquire and put forth the effort to know the contents of your heart and higher purpose for spiritual growth And only really give to others what feels joyful and aligned for your person. Do you not bargain yourself away or sacrifice your truth however, do not avoid tasks that build discipline of the personal character. Ask your multi-dimensional selves what they need to feel balanced and peaceful as you pay attention to your energetic and physical well-being. Generating love and kindness to ourselves as a loving but firm self-parent is a part of spiritual maturity. It is important to give generously to the inner child with acknowledgement and loving appreciation of witnessing the inner childs experiences.

The Relationship Mastery Guidelines are nine steps of practicing improved communication skills with a positive Service to Others orientation. It allows you to create a mutually energetic benefit from experiencing more spiritual connection, increased love and appreciation, and returning back more positive interactions from others to you. Our practice comes without attachment and without expectation placed upon others. This happens naturally when we follow some basic guidelines in certain areas where we have asked for spiritual growth beyond anything else to master old patterns that we are attempting to transcend during the ascension cycle. We may have periods of growth where we are undergoing a deep testing to our personal truth and personal beliefs, watching our 3D world crumble. We are undergoing a time where we will endure a life review, which is definitely testing our personal truth and personal beliefs against the authentic nature of our spiritual being. Eventually our goal is to be able to be in this world, yet not of it. And be able to generate more fulfilling, loving and appreciative bonds that are shared with other people, whether in groups, our community or within our own personal intimate relationships.

(Transcript- Ascension Q&A Life Review, June 2012)

How To Improve Your Self Love – Shift Your Relationship With Your Partner – by Collective Evolution – 10-1-17

Self love can be a difficult subject for many people to address,

especially because it’s one that society frowned upon for a while.

Strengthening your love for yourself was often viewed as vain,

and even to this day it’s mistaken as being selfish.

What we sometimes fail to recognize is …

via How To Improve Your Self Love & Shift Your Relationship With Your Partner — Collective Evolution

Kalayna Colibri – Healing Relationship Cycles And Stories – 9-16-17 – Soulfull Heart Blog

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Kalayna Colibri

Our relationships can feel like an endless circle, and run in infinite circles too… cycles of pain, of this and that being faced, brought up, fought over, over and over again, while inside of you, you feel as if you ARE the relationship and have a hard time sensing where it ends and you begin.

https://soulfullheartblog.com/2017/09/16/healing-relationship-cycles-and-stories/

The same stories are told in countless ways. Stories about the friendship, the romance, the family holiday when you were 5. Some of these stories are told outright, while some are told unconsciously through the ways you’re used to being and interacting with each other. So much of this is accepted by part of you, as being just ‘the way it is’ and perhaps the way it has always been. The relationships you see around you don’t challenge this mind and heart-set of yours either, as they are stuck in the same or very similar loops and cycles. There are certain questions that are never asked about the health of it all and the degree to which it’s self-loving or not, to remain in these stories. Sometimes the Pleasantville experience of it all isn’t so pleasant, yet you remain and aren’t encouraged to ask why… and often the answer to the ‘why’ is that there are fears and more unanswered questions about how life would look without these relationships in place, or at least in the same place they’ve always been up ’til now.

To remain fully involved in all relationships around you without a chance to go inward and discover YOU leads to a world of intense defenses and protection instead of healthy boundaries. It asks parts of you to blend-in, merge, become the relationships instead of feeling what they feel. It asks you to put a stopper in your own growth and the growth of others too. There is so much more to be discovered within you, if you can find a way to take the space you need… and to listen to that voice within, that wants to help clarify for you what you need and want most and what you are most worthy of experiencing in relationship with yourself and others.

To go into YOU… this is risky for these relationships. It does ask them to change as you change, and often it seems that others aren’t willing to come with you. They have a choice to go inside too, to join you on your path or find their own. There is nothing wrong here, there is only what is real… which is perhaps the hardest thing to trust. What is real is what heals and is also what grounds you into the new soil your roots of heart and soul are aching to grow in – the garden bed of a budding ‘self’ that wants to flourish in its self-ness and explore relationships with others from a new place of worth and love that flows deeply on the inside of a YOU that you are now coming to know and become.

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In SoulFullHeart, we offer an ongoing process where you feel parts of you as well as your 3D/4D/5D selves.It is an in-depth healing process that forever deepens and expands. If you are curious to know more and/or may wish to sign-up for a free 30-min intro session, please visit: http://www.soulfullheartwayoflife.com/sessions

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Kalayna Colibri is a SoulFullHeart facilitator for women around (and under) the age of 30, energy healer, indigo-crystal bridge, soul scribe, and poetess. Visit soulfullheartwayoflife.com for more information about space holding sessions, group calls, videos, community, etc. Visit our Patreon page to offer a money donation to support our offerings at https://www.patreon.com/soulfullheart.

What It Means to Love – 9 Steps to a Strong Relationship – by Tiny Buddha – 7-28-17

“Be there. Be open. Be honest. Be kind.

Be willing to listen, understand, accept, support, and forgive.

This is what it means to love.” ~Lori Deschene

They say your heart pounds when you’re in love.

But the very idea of opening up and letting love in

can bring on the wrong kind of palpitations.

via What It Means to Love: 9 Steps to a Strong Relationship — Tiny Buddha

LISA TRANSCENDANCE BROWN – Evolving on a Soul Level – Relationships, Abundance, Worth, Connections, OpportUNITY – HOW the Physical Correlates, Shows You, Responds – 7-20-17

Lisa Transcendence Brown – Cultivating Your NEW Earth Relationships, Built on a Whole NEW Foundation of Unity Consciousness Love – 7-3-17

Originally posted on Lakshmi ♥ Star Seed – Lightarian (TM) Rays Master-Practitioner – Reiki Kundalini Master-teacher – Spiritual Channeller – Lightworker : Art by Ginette Beaulieu *** Cultivating Your NEW Earth Relationships, Built on a Whole NEW Foundation of Unity Consciousness Love 7/2/2017 NEW Earth relationships look nothing like the old. They are built on an energetic…

via Cultivating Your NEW Earth Relationships, Built on a Whole NEW Foundation of Unity Consciousness Love – Lisa Transcendence Brown — dreamweaver333

Energy Update – Healing the Healer and Relationship Shifts – May 25, 2017 – by dreamweaver333

Originally posted on roseramblesdotorg: By Jelelle Awen, 05/25/2017 Increasing frequencies of love and light continue right now and have been strong over the last few days especially. They feel almost like a pounding into Gaia and into each of us, to whatever degree we can let them in. A pounding in a good way, like…

via Energy Update ~ Healing The Healer and Relationship Shifts ~ May 25, 2017 — dreamweaver333

GUSTAVO CASTANER – Relationship Mastery — Parts I & II — Dreaming With Dolphins

Relationship Mastery Part I Let’s begin by explaining what relationship mastery Is NOT. Relationship mastery is not the absence of emotions and never experiencing any drama or challenges in a relationship. The spiritual bypass of relationship “mastery” will have you believe that a conscious relationship is one where both individuals are “cool, calm and collected” […]

via GUSTAVO CASTANER: “Relationship Mastery — Parts I & II” — Dreaming With Dolphins

7 Autumn Wisdom Tips for Romantic Relationships — OMTimes Magazine

by Paulette Sherman Autumn Changes in the Romantic Wind Autumn is blowing in with Summer behind us. Every season has significance and is a spiritual opportunity for growth. The autumn equinox is a time of equal darkness and light, masculine and feminine, sun and moon; balance. What might fall mean for your romantic relationships? 1.…

via 7 Autumn Wisdom Tips for Romantic Relationships — OMTimes Magazine

L’AURA PLEIADIAN: “Finding a Relationship ~ How does it actually work?” — Dreaming With Dolphins – 7-21-16

“When you truly Love yourself YOU also feel the love of your Divine Twin Flame, present within your heart. It is an eternal presence, always living within your Heart. Which by the way, is just another you. SAME Soul.” ~L’Aura Pleiadian If you are like many on Earth, you are hoping for that perfect one. The […]

via L’AURA PLEIADIAN: “Finding a Relationship ~ How does it actually work?” — Dreaming With Dolphins

LISA RENEE – Energetic Synthesis – Relationships Under Construction – Dreaming With Dolphins

“When we recognize the fear program when it is operating in the masses to deliberately separate the male and female from experiencing feelings of empathy with each other, we can refuse its control over our own male and female energies, and choose unconditional love, which connects us with our inherent personal sovereignty as eternal spiritual […]

via LISA RENEE (Energetic Synthesis): “Relationships Under Construction” — Dreaming With Dolphins

Serapis Bey – The Divine Masculine – 6-2-16

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I’m greatly

impacted by Serapis Bey’s interview on An Hour with an Angel this week.

Not like I was aware of it until he spoke, but every soul that we’ve had on the program up till now has put forward the point of view usually associated with the divine feminine – let go, don’t resist, surrender, flow.

Serapis Bey uniquely put forward the viewpoint I’d associate with the divine masculine – persevere, be disciplined, have a determined will, push through to the end.

One of his past lives was as Leonidas, King of Sparta, who, with 300 others, stood off the Persian army at the Pass of Thermopylae. Leonidas is known for his iron will.

He couples that with purity of intention. His intention is to serve the Divine Mother.

His will is not directed against anybody, except perhaps himself.  It’s directed to achieving the Will of the Mother. It’s my surmise that a will truly bent to the service of the Mother would have lost the ability to harm.

He said that there was no room in lightwork for self-aggrandizement. He pointed out that everything the Ascension aspirant does is in service to the Divine Mother, not the ego.

If someone was still into those vibrations, they’d be unable to serve, he said. And the Company of Heaven would probably not use them. He spoke very candidly.

He said that the divine masculine was meant to serve the divine feminine – and vice versa.  The genders were meant to cooperate. This cooperation is what is missing and what the rebalancing that is being done now is designed to restore.

What I took away from the discussion was that the gifts of the divine masculine were to be made freely available to the divine feminine, and vice versa. There was to be some specialization of function (child-birthing, child-rearing, for instance), offset by the free service of one to the other – in marriages, communities, and so on.

The way he knit the vision together inspired thoughts in me of King Arthur’s Camelot, the finest of chivalry, Biblical communities, intentional communities. There has always been something about these chivalric stories that appealed to me. As a young child, I was reading tales of chivalric knights – Ivanhoe, Roland, the knights of the Roundtable.

One thing I think they got right was that the chivalric knight served the woman. If the woman served the knight too, the balance would have been captured. But men chose to subjugate the woman.

We had one gender’s service being demanded of it (the feminine) and the other not extending service in return (the masculine). Everything is out of step with universal law and creates nothing but residue of resentment.  Patriarchy rested on a foundation of subservience, which could never stand. In my view, it saw the complete breakdown of the way the genders were divinely meant to relate.

Our relationships were filled with drama, which became the stuff of our nightly entertainment. We hated the drama in our lives but laughed at the drama portrayed on TV.

We were stuck in a cycle of drama. No love can be found there.

To borrow Archangel Michael’s expression, this way of being is being “re-gridded” to rebalance it, to re-establish the mutual connection of the genders through love and service to each other. All of us have a chance to lead in this brand-new expansion in the meaning of humanness, happening around us.

A second memory was aroused in me by Serapis’ words: Perhaps a peculiarly male side of life – the love of discipline.  His discussion of discipline as consistency took me right back to the karate dojo. You had to be self-disciplined if you were throwing kicks and punches around.

I so loved what I could do with my body in karate. And the essence of karate was discipline.

Of course, the discipline he’s referring to is self-discipline. It has nothing to do with others. It’s not a licence to dominate. What discipline produces is designed to be used in servic

What he reminded me of was that discipline required a consistent regimen from us for the constant practice that made for a starburst of understanding and the mastery of … a discipline. Olympic athletes practice it. Ascension seekers practice it. Serapis called it the fast route and offered to guide anyone on it who asked him. (Yes, I did ask him mentally to initiate me in the discipline.)

He re-awakened a sense of the divine masculine in me (both genders have it), which I’d been resisting and suppressing for a very long time. He gave me permission to reconnect with it, under altered conditions. There’d be no more parasitic feeding of the male upon the female.

The gender bond has to be one of mutual loving service, and that in itself leading to service of the Divine Mother. Transformative love would make the difference between swimming against the Third-Dimensional tide and sailing on smooth waters.

Without both genders serving the other, the train goes off the rails. For men especially, this’ll be an adjustment, a rediscovery of ethics, honor, and self-control. For women, I imagine it’ll primarily be a test of forgiveness and then of wanting patriarchy to stop.

Louise Hay – How to improve all your relationships! – 5-16-16

“The first relationship to improve is the one you have with yourself.

When you’re happy with yourself,
then all of your other relationships improve, too.

A happy person is very attractive to others.

If you’re looking for more love, then you need to love yourself more.

This means no criticism, no complaining, no blaming, no whining,
and no choosing to feel lonely.

It means being very content with yourself in the present moment and choosing to think thoughts that make you feel good now.”

Louise Hay

https://joypassiondesire.com/2016/05/16/how-to-improve-all-your-relationships/

 

Stefanie Miller @ in5d.com – Relationships In The New Energies In5D February 24, 2015

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by Stefanie Miller

http://in5d.com/relationships-in-the-new-energies/

Everything in creation holds an energy frequency. It seems so obvious to many of us. Yet, so many have not embraced that philosophy. There are those that still choose to live unconsciously and make choices that are not in direct alignment and in harmony with their lives. Living, as well as non-living objects, hold resonance, the frequency to which they vibrate.

All of our relationships are undergoing a massive shift. As we are clearing out the old within, we can expect how we relate to others would need to change as well. In order for us to transition to the next level of conscious awareness our relationships need to be in harmonious balance.

The first relationship we must work on is the one we have with ourselves. Making sure we are honoring our body and taking good care of ourselves. I’m finding I need much more rest, exercise, good nutrition, fun, fresh air, pure water and supplements than ever before. Clearing out clutter from my environment has been extremely important as well. I have taken the time to give to myself what I need. Our energetic body easily becomes depleted in this intense energy, especially for the highly sensitive ones. I can feel the sticky, slick energy of the oil spill in my energy field at times. Clearing out what we each hold within, assists in the purging of negativity from our planet. Individually we are doing the work that benefits the collective.

In our intimate relationships with our long term partner or in beginning a new one, we are yearning for a partnership that is in balance with what we want and need. In the past we searched for someone specifically to raise a family with, financial security, companionship, and sexual fulfillment. While of course all of those reasons are still pertinent in what we need in a relationship in the new energy, the most important thing is resonance, which is feeling a deep, fulfilling connection in a relationship. I call it a familiar, someone who feels familiar to me. I can be myself around them, not having to make idle chatter and connect with or without words. Oftentimes we connect with a soulmate, which is not always the easiest relationship. Some soulmate relationships come to teach us things about ourselves. A familiar is someone whom we can breathe easy around and feels like home.

We have a yearning to be seen and accepted for who we truly are. We cannot fix or rescue someone else that cannot or will not do it for themselves. Seeking a partnership based on a respect, trust, kindness, love, intimacy, passion, and joy brings true fulfillment. We are beyond settling in order to have the status quo. We instead seek relationships that are nurturing, giving, and make us feel good. If it causes us an uneasy feeling inside, than our intuition tells us to get out. New energy relationships bring out the best in us, not the worst.

Rather than be in an unfulfilling relationship its best to work on ourselves until we the right person comes along. When we are in alignment, and in balance the pathways to the next step of the journey become very obvious and illuminated.

Our relationship within our family is shifting as well. Whether it is with our children, parents, siblings or extended family. We can no longer tolerate any behavior that does not honor our divinity. It’s important to have healthy boundaries and honor how we deserve to be treated. We are setting the standard to demand respect and kindness from others. When we treat ourselves the way in which we wish to be treated it sets the tone of how things must be. No matter how the interactions in the past were with certain family members, it is no longer acceptable or tolerable in the new energy. It doesn’t take a lot of drama to change the dynamics, but it does take consistency, patience, and perseverance.

We must have self worth and self love in order to know what we want and deserve in our relationships. Being gentle and kind to ourselves is so necessary at this time. Do not overextend or overexert your time or energy. Realize your needs matter and in order to be present, open, and connected to others we must first be connected with ourselves. In order for us to have a true connection within, we need to be in alignment with Source and all that is.

Andrea Schulman @ in5d.com – 5 Possible Reasons Why You’re Still Single – 1-23-16

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Andrea Schulman @ in5d.com  –   5 Possible Reasons Why You’re Still Single   –   1-23-16

http://in5d.com/5-possible-reasons-why-youre-still-single/

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by Andrea Schulman,
Guest writer, In5D.com

Are you still single? I know lots of my readers are interested in learning how to apply the Law of Attraction to attract love into their lives. If you’re wondering why you’re still single, this one’s for you!

 

Today, I’ve outlined 5 of the most common reasons why people have difficulty manifesting loving and lasting relationships with the Law of Attraction. Check out the questions below to see if you can pinpoint any possible reasons why you’re still single.

1. Do you speak negatively about relationships and love?

This is, by far, one of the MOST common reasons why people have difficulty manifesting relationships, and it is also one of the easiest to correct!

Lots of times, people who are struggling to attract love have negative mantras that they practice regularly regarding love and relationships. For example, “a good man is hard to find,” “all of the good ones are taken,” “you can’t trust men/women,” “I always get my heart broken,” or “I have a fear of commitment.”

When we point out in conversation what is going wrong in our love life, we only draw more of these unwanted things into our existence.

You’ve seen this phenomenon in action before I’m sure. We all know a few people who are always complaining about the kinds of partners they have. Then, not surprisingly, as soon as they get out of one bad relationship they dive right into the next.

Negative conversation can cause someone to line up with a string of cheaters, deadbeats, abusers or heartbreakers. It happens all the time!

So, if you find that you often state negative beliefs about relationships and love, make a pact with yourself to stop saying these things as much as possible. This will help lessen a lot of the negative resistance you’ve been offering on the subject.

2. Are you trying too hard?

I’ve noticed that a lot of people who want to manifest love with the Law of Attraction often work very hard at it.

For example, you might find that someone like this has a very regimented “love attraction” routine, perhaps doing a daily visualization, a daily love meditation and regularly practices relationship affirmations. They might also do a lot of other things, like going on lots of dates and reading lots of relationship books.

However, although you know these strategies can be useful tools, they just don’t seem to work. Why is this?

 

Well, when we take drastic measures to attract a partner, the subconscious message we send out into the universe is “I think this process is going to be hard!” “I have to force this issue!” or, even worse, “When is he/she going to show up?!”

Because the universe responds to what we’re putting out there, subconscious messages like these will keep anything from showing up.

See, the process of attracting anything is all about being in the flow and allowing what you want to come without straining. Like a singer who gets lost in the song and delivers a beautiful performance, finding love is all about getting lost in the energy of the moment.

Think about it. We wouldn’t expect that a song would be that good if the singer was stressed out and efforting her way through it, would we? Well, the same thing applies in all areas of life. We have to let the energy carry us if we want to find out way into the magic.

So, if you’ve been trying too hard, take a break! Cut out any activities you’ve been doing to find love that make you feel stressed out or tired. Instead, spend more time having fun and enjoying the present moment.

3. Do you cling to romantic interests?

This one can go hand in hand with the “trying too hard” reason above, but it’s a specific way of trying too hard that is very, very common and it’s definitely worth mentioning.

Clinginess occurs when someone calls a romantic interest too frequently, texts all the time, or develops any kind of obviously unbalanced bond with the other person.

The problem with clinginess is that the message we send into the universe with this behavior is “I’m afraid you’re going to leave me!” and this has terrible ramifications on a potential relationship.

When we expect that a relationship will endure, we have a much more balanced give-and-take attitude about things.

We don’t think our partner will leave us, so we are ok if it takes him or her a few hours to get back with us. We’re not worried about when he or she will call, or when we will see him or her next.

Then, because we are projecting security about the relationship in this fashion, the relationship is much more likely to endure.

So, if there’s someone you like on the horizon, be sure to play it cool. Sure, you can still call or text, but ask yourself “would I be texting/calling this much if I was in a loving and lasting relationship with this person?” Let the answer to that question be your guide on how you treat the other person.

Remember, in order to attract a relationship that lasts you’ve got to send the message that you expect the relationship to last, and one of the ways you do this is through your behavior choices.

4. Do you pick partners based on what other people think?

Love is a funny thing. It can come from a lot of unexpected places!

Sometimes, people struggle to find love because they allow other people’s opinions to interfere with their personal intuition and desires. Unfortunately, many people shut love out of their lives because they’re more concerned about what other people think than they are with what they really want!

So, if you are wanting love, and you find yourself drawn to a particular person who fits your bill, but not the bill of your friends or relatives, keep an open mind! Don’t shut out someone who makes your heart sing just because they’re the wrong age, race, religion, height or other characteristic that is important to someone other than you.

No one else’s opinion matters in your life. If you like someone, that’s all that matters. Trust your own emotions and feelings and they will show you the way to love!

5. Are you unkind to yourself?

With the Law of Attraction, we get what we project out into the universe. When we love ourselves, other people love us too! Unfortunately, however, when we pick apart our flaws and treat ourselves unkindly, so do others.

Loving yourself is probably the very most important thing to consider if want to know why you’re still single. Treat yourself with the same kindness and respect you want to receive from a partner. This will make you a magnet for the kind of love you really want from another person.

So if you’re still single, what do you think? Do any of these reasons resonate with you? If so, that’s a really good thing, because when we know what we are doing that pushes love away from us, we can choose an alternative course of action!

Remember, love is always just a step away. People fall in love all the time in the most random places and ways, and if it can happen for so many people-it can absolutely happen for you too!

If you are wanting to attract love into your life, feel free to contact me and let me know what I can do to help! I am a Law of Attraction coach and I love helping people discover the easy (and fun!) vibe of love manifestation. It’s one of my favorite subjects to discuss and work on.

Happy Manifesting! XO, Andrea

Click here for more articles by Andrea Schulman!

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About the author:
Andrea Schulman is a former high school psychology teacher and the creator of Raise Your Vibration Today, which provides free and easy Law of Attraction techniques. She will be available for group educational seminars and webinars starting in the summer of 2015.

Leda de Zwaan -Cosmic Marriage – Why So Many Traditional Marriages Fail – 1-12-16

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Your true partner has already been decided; it is set above. It is already a commitment, without even knowing, it is an event set to happen by you.  The cosmos knows. Your soul knows. Your gut instinct knows. You have been partners many lifetimes before.

There is nothing ‘ new’, it feels like you have been married a hundred times before. The other person knows what to say or not say, to evolve the process.

You will always come back to each other, or stick together in some way because of the enormous magnetic pull to each other. As they say in the movie Avatar ‘ I see you’. Those words are more then ‘I love you’.

The words have many more dimensions behind it. ‘I see your soul.’

I love your soul, with all aspects that goes with it. Everything. The whole package. – This is the ‘I see you’. 

Many people do not find it appealing anymore, to marry the traditional ways. We say vows we do not feel in the heart, sign a ‘contract’ for an institute and spend a lot of money on a sacred ceremony that transcends the need for material.

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There is a time and place for everything. You cannot change someone’s feelings, and you cannot ‘ make it work’, when it has already been broken and the other person is not fighting for love. It takes two to Tango, It is a lover’s dance…

Someone who does not want to be in their power (commitment to themselves) will never be able to commit to you.
On the road of your past relationships and affairs, you learned who you are,  what you need to shine, bloom, blossom and stay strong in a world, that has so many challenges.

You learned about your personality and your ego-aspects. You learned how to be a strong person, and how to make a future partner a powerful and strong person by the vibration you are able to send in a connection based on Truth. That is how you love in a way that makes the other person stronger, not weaker.

Your reflection – Meeting yourself

When you find someone, who is true to their own soul,  who has taken all the time, to find out their own pains, heals them self, and created the strength to get out of it… They are able to commit to you.

tumblr_lnqogyhCjN1qd5a5kThey need to be true to their ESSENCE. And that takes wisdom, soul searching, falling down and standing up. When you are committed to yourself, because you have seen both the darkest and the lightest places, you are able to ‘ see’ your reflection in someone else.

When you feel a partner is living from the heart, and loves themselves, you will not have a fear-based relationship.

For instance, your partner can be in a room with twenty beautiful other people or they can travel the world without you. You can let him have thousands of friends and you just have ‘ peace and trust’, because you know the commitment is from the heart.

It is a divine connection. You both have rest/stillness and calm, NOT a fear-based relation. You can have your own travel, your own path, and yet…. You know the path of your loved one, is right next to yours. You can sit back, and breathe. When you have peace and rest with a partner, it is, because you feel you can trust this person. And you know you can trust yourself.

Marriage without a True Heart Connection

So many traditional marriages ‘ break’ because it is not a relationship based on a heart connection. It is not based on a true soul-travel. It is based on outside factors like social standards.

Things like money, safety, and a longing for someone to make you feel whole are some are the main reasons we rush to get married.

It’s an act of proving that you love someone, that you’re really committed, when isn’t just loving them enough? Why do we need to prove that our love is real? It should be obvious to all who look.

Most people struggle with the idea of self-love and how it is to feel safety INside themselves. When you are able to give yourself attention, feed yourself with soul-food, love, and fulfillment: You do not need to find love externally. It is always existing inside you already.

Darkness dissolves in The Light of Love

The energy of the heart is so strong, much more powerful than the power of the mind. We don’t give it the credit it truly deserves.

unnamed-1In a cosmic marriage, all the ‘ unseen’ and dark places hidden deep in the heart will appear in the light of love. Darkness will always peak in the heights of ‘ being in love’. Love is the highest vibration. Darkness is a much lower vibration.

If someone loves you truly, all the unseen aspect will come up for they are showing you what you can change. Just breath, walk, sing, dance, cry, and let it be ‘ there’. Do not judge your fears and insecurities.

When we can genuinely say ‘ Thank you’, and ‘I see you’, we create real transformation within us. Do not think your lover is the cause of this pain. See it differently. Your lover is only picking up the mirror, and wants to heal you by showing you all the aspects of yourself. Sometimes we don’t want to look, but that is the only way to grow.

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Taryn Crimi – Angelic Guides – Consciously direct your relationships – 12-28-15

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Taryn Crimi   –   Angelic Guides   –   Consciously direct your relationships   –   12-28-15

https://foreverunlimited.wordpress.com/2016/01/03/consciously-direct-your-relationships-angelic-guides-by-taryn-crimi/

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Today we would like to briefly discuss how your thoughts and expectations play significant roles in the relationships that you have with one another. Though this will not be a particularly long message, we do feel it is a rather important reminder. We say reminder because we are never sharing anything with you that you do not already know within on some level.

Now with that being said, each of you have all sorts of relationships with your friends, family and loved ones, however that does not mean that you love everything about each one of them. Though we do not see the differences as being a negative, not by any means, in fact they present you with wonderful learning opportunities.

There lies within every single being things that you like and things that you do not like, parts of them that resonate with your being and parts that are not in alignment with your being. What we would like to remind each of you to do is to concentrate on the parts of their being that you do very much like, the attributes that you admire and the actions that you are grateful for. You see it is up to each and every one of you to focus your attention on what you wish to expand. Many of you fall into the trap of becoming frustrated with the differences in opinions, or the differing view points that you do not wish to experience in one another and of course those attributes expand.

Though you never have the ability to change another being, you always have the ability to focus on the parts of them that you enjoy, the parts that you are grateful for and the views that are in alignment with your own. Just as with everything in your reality, what you focus on will always expand. What you expect out of someone will be what you receive. Expect great things from one another. You are all far more in harmony and similar to one another than you realize.

So again we remind you, focus on what you love about the people you come in contact with and you will surely witness your world transform. Remember you are the creators of every aspect of your reality. Focus on the good in one another.

We hope that this simple reminder has served you in some way.

In love and light, we are your Angelic Guides

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Andrea Schulman – Why A High Vibration Can Lead To Lost Relationships – BodyMindSoulSpirit – 11-19-15

Why A High Vibration Can Lead To Lost Relationships

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Andrea Schulman  –   Why A High Vibration Can Lead To Lost Relationships   –   BodyMindSoulSpirit   –   11-19-15

http://www.bodymindsoulspirit.com/why-a-high-vibration-can-lead-to-lost-relationships/

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by Andrea Schulman,
Guest writer, BodyMindSoulSpirit.com

I have been asked now many times about a common phenomenon in the Law of Attraction community regarding lost relationships. It seems that many people who are learning how to raise their vibrations find that they lose friends, or incur strained relationships with people they used to be close with. In this article, I will seek to answer these questions on why having a high vibration can lead to lost relationships.

Now, let me first say that this phenomenon is a bit of a conundrum.

When you raise your vibration, you should expect that only good things happen to you, right? After all, a high vibration is supposed to attract things that feel good to you. Therefore, on the surface, it simply doesn’t make sense that you would have to deal with relationship breakups, because they don’t feel good!

But to really understand this phenomenon, we must dive a little deeper.

When we raise our vibrations, we align ourselves with a happier, more aligned state of being. In this state, we are more likely to want to promote tolerance, love and happiness. This, by the way, is why many people often see us as being flighty or even ridiculous; we are aware of the benefits of connection and unity, while much of the world we’ve grown up in is still very focused on separation and discord.

Part of the process of true ascension is raising your vibration to the point that you align with a reality where more and more people believe in connection and unity, and choose to focus on the positive.

As your vibration raises, you can tell that you are truly on the right path by looking to see who’s around you. If you are seeing more people who are being kind, loving and in a state of connection, you can be certain that you have significantly raised your vibration, and have attracted a more unified reality.

The problem that arises in our relationships is not that we are incapable of attracting these kind and loving people, but rather that it is often difficult for us to change our expectations about certain people we’ve grown close to. Often, when we raise our vibrations, we become aware of the negativity that exists within the people around us. Many times we start to see that perhaps they aren’t as positive and connected as we once believed they were.

I noticed this in my reality when I first became interested in the Law of Attraction. I had a dear friend who I had always seen as a very positive and uplifting person. Through my newer, more uplifted perspective, however, it became more obvious to me that while he was still a very kind and loving person, his perspective was indeed much more negative than I had ever been able to see before.

If you find yourself in a position like this, and suddenly a loved one appears to be more negative, it is simply because your perception has changed due to your energetic shift. At one point, your loved one’s behavior may have seemed perfectly acceptable, but now it may not resonate as well with you.

If this is the case, you may have a hard time believing that this loved one can “rise up” with you. Your perception of them from this new vantage point may make it difficult to expect them to come along with you on your journey. While they were a vibrational match to you at one point, perhaps now they are not.

So, as your vibration raises one of two things can happen. On the one hand, if you believe a loved one is incapable of joining you in your ascension, he or she will remain in the same place. Meanwhile, your ascension will cause you to detach from his or her presence, and the relationship will become lost.

The other option is that you expect your loved one to transcend his or her current state in order to join you in your ascension. If this is the case, you will believe that this person will rise up with you. Then, your relationship will stay alive as you ascend together.

This second option is a little more challenging, because it requires you to believe something you may not be capable of believing from where you stand right now. This is especially the case if you’ve been overly focused on your loved one’s negativity OR if you believe that they would be very uncomfortable in the reality you are headed towards.

Remember, the cardinal rule with the Law of Attraction is that you get what you believe. If you believe your friends and relatives are capable of making the climb with you, they will. If you can’t, then they must fade out of the picture in order for you to ascend. This is why many of us struggle to hold on to certain relationships during ascension.

So, if this is happening to you, take heart. It happens to a lot of us!

At the end of the day, what is truly important is that you raise your vibration, regardless of the outcome. Trust as you ascend good things are ahead of you, and if you have left anyone behind it is simply because the two of you presently have incompatible vibrations. Please note: this doesn’t mean that you are better than your loved one, it simply means that the version of them you have come to know and expect no longer resonates with you.

The good news is that there are a few things you can do to keep a relationship alive, and if the relationship is important to you, it’s probably a good idea to give them a try.

First (and foremost), avoid thinking about your loved one as being a negative person. Focus only on the times your loved one is happy, laughing and uplifted. This will align you more closely with a version of him or her that is happy, laughing and uplifted and the more of that version you see, the better.

We live in an infinite universe, so be aware that there are an infinite “versions” of your loved one. Some positive, some negative. To align with a more positive version of your loved one, you must expect him or her to evolve into this version.

You can also make it your intention to keep your loved one around, and use a journal and daily affirmations to focus on his or her positive traits. Give it a solid try to adjust your expectations because if your perception of your loved one improves enough, you can continue on your journey together.

But, if the process proves to be too frustrating, just relax and let go. It will be ok, I promise.

Please know that what is most important is that you ascend to a higher state of being. If reconciling the negativity in your friends and loved ones causes you frustration or irritation, down you will go. Then, you will find yourself surrounded by these same people, not because they have risen up, but because your vibrational energy has spiraled back down.

So, be easy and gentle about this. It’s ok if some people fade out of the picture, as long as you are still creeping upward. Again, when you ascend, you will find yourself surrounded more and more by people who are on your wavelength, so you needn’t fear loneliness or isolation. If you continue to climb you will attract the loving relationships you desire.

It is also entirely possible that you may align with the positive version of your friend or loved one down the road. Perhaps it is too challenging to expect him or her to join you right now, but at a later point in your ascension you will have an easier time of it. The higher we rise, the easier it becomes to expect others to do the same. So, it isn’t necessarily “good bye,” but maybe instead just a “see you later.”

I hope this article has clarified some of the questions I have received on this issue of lost relationships. If you have any more questions about this issue, please comment below!

Click here for more articles by Andrea Schulman!

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About the author:
Andrea Schulman is a former high school psychology teacher and the creator of Raise Your Vibration Today, which provides free and easy Law of Attraction techniques. She will be available for group educational seminars and webinars starting in the summer of 2015.

 

 

Scott Presscott @ in5d.com – 7 Common Experiences With The Ascension Process – You’re Not Alone! – 12-12-15

7 Common Experiences With The Ascension Process – You’re Not Alone!

Scott Presscott @ in5d.com   –   7 Common Experiences With The Ascension Process – You’re Not Alone!   –   12-12-15

From Body Mind Soul Spirit, December 11, 2015

For those of you experiencing the process of ascension – here are some aspects. Not everyone is experiencing the same processes. Just know that you are not alone…

Below are some common experiences of leaving the old world behind, what they mean, and some tools for comfort:

1. You suddenly feel like you have jumped off a cliff with no net, with strong feelings of no sense of place and nothing to hold onto.

1. You suddenly feel like you have jumped off a cliff with no net, with strong feelings of no sense of place and nothing to hold onto.

This is an indication that you have made a separation from older and denser energies that are now residing where you are not. This occurs many times during the ascension process, each time that a critical mass is met within and sometimes without. This feeling always passes in time, even though it can feel very uncomfortable when it is occurring. We can take comfort in knowing that these feelings always pass, and that we eventually begin to recognize and accept them the more often they occur.

2. No one seems to notice you, pay attention to you, or give you much, if any, regard.

2. No one seems to notice you, pay attention to you, or give you much, if any, regard.

Although this can create uncomfortable feelings of dis-respect, irreverence and even abuse, know that the individuals that are not “seeing” you are in a completely different space. In the old world, many individuals have not yet evolved out of themselves, and thus, are seeing through a substantial wall of density or ego.

It is still all about what is inside of them, as they are not yet ready to see that everything around them is part of one beautiful whole, that each and every one of us is a brilliant light comprising that whole, and we are all one.

The higher we vibrate, the more invisible we become, and the more noticeable it is. You will know when you are “seen” and revered, and these are the individuals that you will eventually choose to spend time with. The nature spirits always see us, and they are wonderful to spend time around. Staying in your own personal sanctuary can help as well. As more and more souls on the planet begin not taking things personally, they will be freed up and begin to see what is around them as well.

3. It is difficult to be in crowds and you are no longer able to participate in anything that has to do with group energy.

 It is difficult to be in crowds and you are no longer able to participate in anything that has to do with group energy.

Unless the group is a very unusual one, where each and every member is honored and respected for who they are and what they are there to contribute, with equal amounts of involvement, and a similar purpose that is a passion for each member, groups will no longer work for you. In higher level groups there are no leaders and everyone is on equal turf and very “seen,” with much gratitude and reverence.

Also, being around groups or crowds brings in a large array of differing energy, and the more highly sensitive we become, the less we are able to process or handle too much differing energy all at once. In the higher realms, things are very simple as so much of anything vibrating lower has been transmuted or shed. There is not so much density or variation to wade through or feel. Opinions do not exist and all of the energy is always going in the same direction.

Thus, groups from the old world can feel downright awful once we have departed from that world. Fun groups that are here to vibrate fun and enjoyment, with no agendas while everyone involved is going in the same direction are always good ones to be involved with at any time on our journey.

4. You feel very lonely, have but a few friends and loved ones left that you regularly connect to, and no one really thinks like you do, nor understands your view of reality.

4. You feel very lonely, have but a few friends and loved ones left that you regularly connect to, and no one really thinks like you do, nor understands your view of reality.

We can try time and again to make new friends, connect with new people, and join new groups, but unless these energies are vibrating where we are, it can always seem that we are going in two very different directions. It is very common with the ascension process to feel like everyone else is at the end of one long tunnel, so very far away and difficult to reach.

In addition, the more we evolve, the more we find that New Age and “spiritual” groups no longer fit, as many times they contain old and stale energy, as well as spending far too much time focusing on intentional spirituality, which does not exist is the higher realms. It can be extremely difficult, if not impossible, to go back to energies that we have evolved out of…they become simply intolerable.

Love always vibrates high, and even though we may not see eye to eye with everyone we encounter or connect to, connecting to the energy of love can always serve as the one and only connector or commonality and will keep alive relationships that may have otherwise dissolved.

5. You have simplified your life to a large degree, removed yourself from lower and denser energies, and you feel that there is nowhere left to go.

5. You have simplified your life to a large degree, removed yourself from lower and denser energies, and you feel that there is nowhere left to go.

Congratulations! You have now reached your center, or rather the eye of the storm, the space in between thoughts, the now, and where it all is. In addition, the higher vibrating realities have not yet been created, thus, there is nowhere to go that matches where you are now vibrating. Once we reach the eye of the storm, we begin to effortlessly create much of anything that we need or want.

We begin creating effortlessly, as all we need do is be still, entertain a thought very randomly, and what we desire to connect to arrives in no time. I have this experience all the time, as I know many of you do as well, so I know it to be very true and very possible. Very soon, this will be the only reality that we experience, and this is happening now. Feeling confident enough in leaving the old world behind, will naturally place us here. This is a very protected space as well.

6. You no longer have a desire to heal others, bring up the vibration of the planet, teach new ways of being, read spiritual materials, meditate, SAVE anything or anyone, or participate in anything that has a spiritual intent.

6. You no longer have a desire to heal others, bring up the vibration of the planet, teach new ways of being, read spiritual materials, meditate, SAVE anything or anyone, or participate in anything that has a spiritual intent.

The planet has now reached a new level. Your job is over. And even before this new level was reached, after each of us reaches a certain level of frequency within, we are now ready to lose that old purpose and get a real life. This means that we do not need to speak about spiritual matters, we do not need to read about them, and we do not need to learn anything new.

We come to know that being spiritual occurs very naturally 24/7. We are then simply being spiritual without having an intent to do so. Having an intent places us outside of our center and also comes from an old ego stance. Saving others or meddling with intentional desires to help others when not asked, is also very out of alignment with being an Earth Angel. Spontaneously offering spiritual guidance or messages to others fits in this category as well. There is one exception to all of this and it has to do with our store-fronts.

Because our store-fronts exist on the dimensional border, and not in the old reality, they will serve to assist others in getting to the next plateau, or to the other side. In this way, we will be asked for assistance, and those asking will be poised and ready to receive what they need through our store-fronts.

7. You are so tired and weary of the old reality, that you do not care about anything anymore and simply give up with disappointment, exhaustion, apathy, and what feels like depression with a strong desire not to be here anymore. You think that nothing will EVER change. You are beyond discouraged.

 You are so tired and weary of the old reality, that you do not care about anything anymore and simply give up with disappointment, exhaustion, apathy, and what feels like depression with a strong desire not to be here anymore. You think that nothing will EVER change. You are beyond discouraged.

You are now ready to be in the eye of the storm. You are now ready to leave the old behind. You needed to not care about what is happening elsewhere, as what is happening elsewhere no longer has anything to do with you. You had not yet realized that you had “died” and crossed over into a new reality. You were still hanging around in the old world and believing it was your world and about you. The outside, or old world, had to become so unpleasant that you would be willing to let it go.

It felt acutely unpleasant, as you no longer belong there because you have died and are now being re-born. You will know when you have taken the plunge and trusted or become exhausted enough to let it all go, when you find yourself it states of great peace, contentment, trust, and calm. It is then that all your needs will be miraculously met with ease and you will feel a peace you have never known. And then…you will eventually meet others who are here as well and unite to create something very new. But before we can create something very new in a very new reality, we must first rejuvenate and restore ourselves.

original source: http://www.emergingearthangels.com

BMSS Addendum

Gregg Prescott, M.S.
Editor, BodyMindSoulSpirit.com 

The awakening process is filled with many unexpected turns and twists. Some of the things we experience will be amazing while others seem to drain every ounce of energy we have. Many times, these are lessons that are reflected back to us to help us grow as individuals.

As these lessons they often will culminate into what is called “the dark night of the soul“.

The awakening process is filled with many unexpected turns and twists. Some of the things we experience will be amazing while others seem to drain every ounce of energy we have. Many times, these are lessons that are reflected back to us to help us grow as individuals. in5d

Many of us have either gone through the “dark night of the soul” or are currently going through it right now. When you’re experiencing it, it feels like the worst days of your life, and that’s generally true but please keep in mind that you’re never alone and that better days are ahead. Not only that, but the lessons you learn from experiencing the dark night of the soul with help your spirit grow exponentially and will allow you to help others who are going through it down the road.

Click here for more articles by Gregg Prescott!

About the Author:
Gregg Prescott, M.S. is the founder and editor of In5D and BodyMindSoulSpirit. He hosts a weekly spiritual show on In5D Radio and promotes spiritual, metaphysical and esoteric conferences in the United States through In5dEvents. Gregg is currently working in collaboration with Michelle Walling, CHLC, in opening a holistic walk-in clinic called Alternative Holistic Healthcare (AHH) in Sarasota, FL with subsequent subsidiaries around the world based upon this model.Gregg Prescott, M.S. is the founder and editor of In5D and BodyMindSoulSpirit. He hosts a weekly spiritual show on In5D Radio and promotes spiritual, metaphysical and esoteric conferences in the United States through In5dEvents. His love and faith for humanity motivates him to work relentlessly in humanity’s best interests 12-15+ hours a day, 365 days a year. Please like and follow In5D on Facebook as well as BodyMindSoulSpirit on Facebook!

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Found at:  http://cultureofawareness.com/2015/12/12/7-common-experiences-with-the-ascension-process-youre-not-alone-2/

Pamala Vincent @ Wisdom Pills – What Matters Most In Education: Human Relationships – 11-7-15

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Pamala Vincent @ Wisdom Pills   –   What Matters Most In Education: Human Relationships  –   11-7-15

By Pamala Vincent, Wisdom Pills, November 6, 2015

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When I began teaching in the 70’s, things were a lot different. Reading, writing and arithmetic used to be the name of the game.

Students showed up to school prepared to learn. They came from intact families (divorced parents were rare), well fed, and walked with friends a short distance to a school within their community. I placed parent helpers on a rotating schedule to accommodate all of their volunteering, and birthdays and holidays were celebrated with a buffet of home-baked treats brought in by the parents. My classroom had 18 students, and personal relationships were natural. When I sent homework home, it was always completed and returned on time.

Fast forward to 2015: divorce has skyrocketed, students are bussed across town, and often, their most substantial meals are served at school. Classrooms run anywhere from 36+ students to 90, and they straggle in late, often looking like they haven’t slept well. Both parents work to survive, making it nearly impossible for them to be involved in the classroom. In fact, I’m lucky if I see parents more than once a year at orientation or parent-teacher conferences. The opportunity to build relationships is at an all-time low. The world is a different place. People are stressed, busy, and distracted. The result? We’ve lost touch with the one thing that truly makes all the difference in education: human connection.

The Caring Quotient

Theodore Roosevelt once said: “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” Never before has this statement been truer. In a world that runs Mach II with our hair on fire, we all want to feel like we matter and that we’re connected. When I asked my now grown students, “How did you know your teacher cared about you?” these were the most common responses:

  • She let me know, or somehow otherwise made me feel important.
  • She was willing to be transparent. 
  • She corrected me without robbing my dignity. 
  • When I was having a tough time, she would notice and always ask me how I was doing. 
  • I could email her for advice, even when it wasn’t an assignment. 
  • I could tell that when I was speaking, she was really listening to me.

Working As A Team  

According to a recent study of more than 10,000 students, parents and teachers conducted by North Carolina State University, Brigham Young University, and the University of California, Irvine, “the role of family involvement is crucial when it comes to academic success.”

When students, parents, and teachers work together like a three-legged stool, academics increase dramatically. When one leg of the stool drops off, the stool ceases to function suitably. Most parents want to help, but find themselves at a loss as of what to do. Here’s where building relationships with parents will turn them into advocates. It becomes a partnership on the student’s behalf.

When positive relationships are built, studies show that:

  • Students earn higher grades and test scores improve dramatically
  • Increased number of students enroll in higher education 
  • There is less absenteeism 
  • Social skills improve 
  • Behavioral issues decrease
  • Graduation rates increase 
  • Violent crime rates among teens drop

When We Fail

The National Institute of Justice Journal indicates that parental disengagement in regards to their children’s academics is a major cause of youth violence:

“I doubt that there is an influence on the development of antisocial behavior among young people that is stronger than that of the family. A fifth pathway linking family problems with adolescent violence is through the impact of negative parenting on youngsters’ academic performance. There is now some very good research indicating that involvement in aggressive and antisocial behavior during adolescence is frequently preceded by school problems of one sort or another, including academic failure and conduct problems. Children who have problems in school often gravitate toward peer groups of other troubled children, and these peer groups frequently become involved in antisocial behavior. Engagement in school is a strong protective factor against antisocial behavior, and positive family relationships are predictive of school engagement.” 

Obstacles To Building Trust

When students and parents feel decisions are made without their inputor that their concerns aren’t heard, dissension toward administration can tear down interaction and involvement. Poor communication, frequent teacher turnover and weak ethical leadership all contribute to parents and students feeling vulnerable. Ultimately, these obstacles can end up creating an ‘us-against-them’ mentality, and academic success suffers.

Building Relationships Begins With Trust

When students and parents know they can trust teachers, they’re more likely to build a relationship that benefits everyone. Here are some clear points that, in my experience, almost always work towards achieving these ends. Though it is important to encourage this behaviour from students, it can’t always be expected. If the adults in the relationship, however — the teachers and parents — manage to practice these tenets consistently, the chances that the student will come on board, due to the developing trust in the relationship, increase greatly.

  • Begin first by demonstrating personal integrity– say what you mean and mean what you say. 
  • Finding ways for communication will build opportunities to share information. Perhaps that means being more accessible through texting, emails, and letters sent home. 
  • Being supportive of dissenting opinions will help facilitate engagement. 
  • Asking for others’ ideas and opinions. 
  • Ask for help but be specific. ‘Can you volunteer for our fundraiser?’ sounds like an overwhelming task, but asking if they could create the fundraiser sign-ups or call parent helpers relaxes the pressure a little. If they know the task, they may be more likely to say yes. Also, getting to know their unique talents and sending those projects their way will up your chances of engaging their help. 
  • Recognition on, and concern for, each other’s best interests and working to protect them
  • Being able to count on others to follow through
  • Believing the other party had the competence to perform the required tasks
  • Situations are being represented fairly 
  • Demonstrating authenticity and openness
  • Guarding confidentiality 

When the Hoy and Tschannedn-Moran Trust Scales were given in hundreds of schools, the results showed that when students, parents, and teachers built a higher level of trust, there was a strong degree of collaboration and cooperation.

Relationships at the elementary level: 

Accurately assessing your child in the early stages of learning is vital to setting a strong foundation for them. Often a learning challenge, caught early, can be corrected before it causes significant struggles. However, a teacher cannot always fully assess a child without parent input.  A parent may have significant information that can change the direction a teacher will develop for a student. Understanding trauma, for instance, can drastically affect a child’s ability to learn. Learning styles, if understood by the parent and the teacher, will greatly affect the ways information is shared with a student in the formative years, when it matters most.

For example, a young student that experienced several serious bouts of ear infections may not have learned to isolate sounds. This inability needs to be addressed to teach decoding phonetics in reading. A simple tool like using a mirror with both the child and the parent or teacher modeling the shape of the mouth with the sound can rebuild speech and hearing deficiencies. If a relationship isn’t established, this information might be lost, and a more severe diagnosis of the problem may be established.

Relationships at the secondary level: (6th-12th grade) 

Students in the pre-teen and teen years have already taken their personal inventory and find themselves lacking. It goes with the age. It may not be true, but it is their perception of themselves that will dictate their learning. Because teens tend to short-change their worth, they build masks that give them a false sense of protection. These masks show up in the form of belligerence, non-compliance, poor clothing choices, identifying with different groups of peers (the good and the bad), hair color, attitudes, addictions or shutting down. When a teacher can build a relationship with the parents, it gives them a wealth of insight into their students’ lives, and parents need to develop a relationship with their students’ teachers and administration for several reasons. Consider the following:

  • Teachers have an insight into your child’s life that you don’t. Remember they spend 25-40 hours a week with them and see your teen in peer situations as well as a variety of authoritative scenarios. As a parent, you need that input to sculpt them into adulthood.
  • Parents have a history that teachers need to better understand the student and help direct them toward college and careers.
  • Parents need teachers to help understand credits, college requirements, the value of internships and volunteering, and scholarships. In an ever-changing world of increasing information, teachers are your first line of defense. 

The Heart of the Matter

All humans, no matter our age, want to feel that we belong and that we matter. When we allow our relationships with those most important in our lives — this includes our childrens’ teachers —  to drop in the list of priorities, we open the window for developmental problems to begin taking hold with our children. I’m reminded of the students who contemplated ending their lives when another student, teacher or parent stepped in to engage with them. Those relationships saved their lives.

School shootings make our hearts ache, and we wonder if we could have done more to prevent them.  Perhaps a proper relationship with the perpetrator might have made the difference. By saving one, many others may be saved.

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Found at:  http://cultureofawareness.com/2015/11/07/what-matters-most-in-education-human-relationships/

Romeo Baron – How Soul Growth Affects Relationships – in5d.com – 3-31-15

How Soul Growth Affects Relationships in5d in 5d

by Romeo Baron

Thousands of people all over the planet are shifting into higher states of consciousness and this is reflecting in our everyday relationships with people and society all around us. A lot of relationships are falling apart, mostly because one of the partners is starting to vibrate at a much higher frequency then the other. This is true for families and friendships as well.

Many will want to stay stuck in the negativity, they fear to shift into a much higher frequency. This is their soul choice. What will happen is those individual souls won’t be able to adjust as the higher frequencies of divine light vibrates through the outer and the inner earth.

Under such circumstances, one partner will be stuck or hung up about material satisfaction and very much into dense forms, and not at all activated from deep within their inner core being, while the other partner will be very much activated. Eventually all the glue in the world will simply not hold the relationship together.

This is part of the soul growth transition. One must understand that all marriage contracts and being bound legally have no jurisdiction in the higher realms of being.

Divine love vibrates at certain frequencies. A true partnership happens between two people who are on the same vibrational frequency wavelength, Like attracts like, and their coming together will be in higher service with such a bond that will not disintegrate because of having the same values and same being, seeing and experiencing spirit in action.

Those who have been through deep inner core shifts in higher consciousness in the last few years have this inner knowing that there is a deep divine love within them that is above and beyond words.

http://in5d.com/how-soul-growth-affects-relationships/

Carmen Di Luccio – Lunar Eclipse In Libra – Balancing Relationship Needs With Individual Freedom – 4-4-15

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By Carmen Di Luccio, Collective Evolution, April 3, 2015
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On Saturday, April 4th at 8:05 am (ET) we will be having the peak of a Total Lunar Eclipse in the sign of Libra. It is also known as a “Blood Moon,” and will be visible over most of North and South America, the Pacific, Eastern Europe, East Asia, Australia, and New Zealand. It will be visible for many hours, depending on where it is seen in the world.

A Lunar Eclipse is a super-charged Full Moon and its effects are most strongly felt in the week leading up to it and the weeks following. Generally the effects of a lunar eclipse last anywhere between 3 and 6 months. This lunar eclipse happens in the same Moon cycle as the powerful Solar Eclipse that we had a few weeks ago, which means that the themes of that eclipse will be connected with those of this one. Click here to read my article about the last Solar Eclipse on March 20th.

The Difference Between Solar Eclipses & Lunar Eclipses In Astrology

l-c-3Solar Eclipses are a type of New Moon and Lunar Eclipses are a type of Full Moon. New Moons and Solar Eclipses are more about new beginnings and planting new seeds in our personal lives.  The effects of Full Moons and Lunar Eclipses usually manifest through external events and in our relationships, and have to do with releasing and making changes.

Full Moons and Lunar Eclipses can be emotionally charged and external circumstances manifest themselves that call some type of balance, change, release, and can be intense sometimes, often manifesting in relations with others.

Lunar Eclipse In Libra Opposite Sun & Uranus In Aries

The sign of Libra is associated with equality, balance, fairness, relationships, relating, and co-operation. Libra is diplomatic and wants to do what’s in the best interest between two people or two parties. The Sun (which is always opposite the Full Moon) is in Aries and is associated with individual needs and self-reliance. It is close to the planet Uranus which has to do with surprises, uniqueness, sudden changes, and freedom. Uranus in Aries  can also be explosive in some cases.

Considering all of this, the theme for this Lunar Eclipse is to strike a balance between our independence and individual needs, and our relationships and co-dependencies. Since the emphasis of this eclipse is on Libra more so than Aries, there is a theme of needing to be considerate of others. Perhaps some people need to make changes in their lives and in their relationships in order to achieve change and a new sense of cooperation. In other cases, things may also come up that make others want to break away from relationships.

Pluto In Capricorn & Jupiter In Leo Are Also Influencing This Eclipse

This Full Moon is also powerfully influenced by the planet Pluto, which is a “transformer.” It is in the sign of Capricorn, which has to do with structures, responsibilities, career, and traditions. For many people, transformations in these areas will assist them in achieving cooperation in their relationships. Pluto may also create power struggles and in some cases intense conflicts.

Jupiter retrograde in Leo will be in nice aspect to this eclipse. Jupiter has to do with our spiritual beliefs and when it is retrograde it is about finding your inner wisdom and truth. In Leo it influences our beliefs around our creative self-expression, our children, our love life, and what is fun to us.

Depending on one’s specific birth date and location, the themes of this eclipse can influence different areas of a person’s life and achieved varied results. To gain a better understanding and guidance on what this eclipse means for you specifically, it is best to consult with a professional astrologer.

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To get a personalized reading with astrologer Carmen Di Luccio, or for more information, visit his website here.

Dana Mrkich – Relationships, Shifting and Triggering – 3-30-15

Dana Mrkich

Dana Mrkich

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A couple of people emailed me a similar question last week about big changes that are happening in their relationship. One has ended a long-term relationship, while the other is in a good marriage yet has found there is a strong energy connection with someone else. Both asked if there were any insights that could help their respective situations. I’ve covered this topic in this week’s Let Love In webcast, but here’s my response in case you are going through something similar: 

Essentially as one person awakens or has a “growth spurt”, one of two things are tending to happen: the relationship (and partner) is called to shift to a higher, deeper level or one person shifts while the other doesn’t (or they shift in different directions), triggering the end of that union, or resulting in an uncomfortable experience until something changes.

In this new evolutionary cycle we are experiencing the end of karmic relationships and dynamics..that is, the end of the relationships primary purpose being the healing of old wounds and issues, healing inner child and past life stuff etc. As we move into wholeness and are taking greater responsibility for our own emergence, we are connecting in a new way. Our relationships are more now about supporting and encouraging each other to expand into our wholeness, to be all we are here to be, rather than fill someone else’s “hole” or hold their stuff for them.

It is also common to meet someone who triggers all of this for you, and increasingly this is happening while people are in relationship with someone else. This then forces the question for people: am I happy in my relationship, am I not? If not, why not? Is there something my partner and I can do/need to do to regain connection and intimacy or is our time done? These triggers are ideally used in a conscious, responsible way. That is, they are an opportunity for a new level of conversation and connection in your current relationship.

Sometimes those coming along are your next mate, albeit unexpected and unplanned, other times they are a soul ‘trigger’ mate, destined to come along to shake things up and turn you toward your new direction – in love, and other ways also.

Are you finding that there are lots of relationship shifts going on in your lives and around you?

(c) Dana Mrkich 2015

Nanice Ellis – Conscious Commitment – Why Relationships Fail – How to Make Them Work – 3-22-15

Nanice EllisHave you ever considered that perhaps we are too quick to make commitments of the heart? With uncountable divorces and break ups, maybe we should just stop for a moment and take a closer look at the concept of commitment.

If commitment were the answer to happy and lasting relationships, wouldn’t we have more lasting and happy relationships?Why do we make relationship commitments?

Commitment can lead to a beautiful union but we often make relationship commitments for all the wrong reasons, such as:

•  External obligations: it is expected by family, society or religion.

•  Ultimatums: our partner gives us an ultimatum and we fear losing him/her if we don’t commit.

•  Insecurities: we feel insecure about the relationship and we want the other person to commit to us, so we commit to him/her.

Last but not least, somehow we have gotten it into our heads that love requires commitment, and if there is no commitment, then it is not real love. “If you love me, you will marry me.”

Commitments often don’t work out because they are forced, premature or for all the wrong reasons.

Even if we make commitments with the intention of strengthening a relationship, commitments can be relationship suicide because they often cause us to go unconscious. Many times, commitment causes a couple to take the relationship for granted and not pay attention. When we stop paying attention to our relationships, sooner or later, those relationships deteriorate.

The truth is, how do we know how we will feel next year or in twenty years? How can I make a commitment for my future-self when I don’t even know her yet, and, what if a commitment that I make today does not support my future-self in her journey and desires?

I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with commitment. When both people consciously choose to commit, something very beautiful and sacred can be created. The problem is that our traditional approach to commitment creates dysfunctional relationships.

How can you be true to yourself when you are entangled in a commitment that wasn’t based on truth to begin with?

In the name of commitment, we disregard our own hearts and, in some ways, we disregard the hearts of those we have committed to. If I am only with my partner because I made a commitment, but my heart is not in it, then I am keeping him in the relationship under false pretenses. I especially don’t want a partner to stay with me only because he is honoring a commitment that he no longer feels an allegiance to.

We often make commitments because it is easier to commit once and then be dishonest about the relationship; in other words, once we commit, we can disregard how we really feel about the relationship and about our partner, because “the decision has been made.”

It is as if commitment gives us permission to negate our thoughts and feelings – giving us no choice but to stay in the relationship. This might also mean that we embark on certain behaviors that are deceitful, rather than speak our truth, or take actions that support our greater good – and the greater good of our partner.

Or, worse yet, maybe we pressure someone else into a commitment and then blame them when they fail to keep it. Many times commitment “sets us up” to become out-of-integrity with our own selves.

When we are asleep and unconscious in relationships, we are asleep and unconscious in our lives.

Commitment to Self

The real problem with making commitments to others is that we don’t first make commitments to ourselves. How can you make a commitment to another without ever having made a commitment to yourself?

If you have not committed to your own life, you lack the foundation to commit to another. If you have not committed to take care of yourself, how can you commit to care for another? If you have not committed to love, honor and cherish yourself, first and foremost, you have no business making commitments to do this for anyone else.

Commitment to Self creates the foundation for all other relationships.

If you do not commit to your self, you ultimately create a relationship with the expectation that your partner will meet your emotional needs and give to you what you do not give to yourself. This creates dysfunction and co-dependence, and why most relationships, in the end, fail.

Conscious Commitment - Why Relationships Fail and How to Make Them Work!

Making Conscious Commitments

From a foundation of self commitment, you are able to make the conscious choice in committing to another. But, even then, your commitment to another must first be a commitment to yourself about the other. In other words, your commitment is a promise that you make to yourself regarding your relationship. This means that commitments can only be made to ourselves.

Do I commit to me that I will be faithful and loyal to you?

I may say the words or I may even say “I do,” but if I don’t first and foremost make that commitment to myself, my commitment to you is void of any real meaning.

We can only create Conscious Commitments when our connection to who we really are and our commitment to ourselves is the foundation, and remains the foundation, throughout the history of the relationship.

Many Gifts of Conscious Commitment

When you have two people who are each committed to themselves and they come together in Conscious Commitment, you have the making of an Evolved Relationship based on openness, honesty and trust.

True commitment is not about staying together, come “hell or high water”, as much as it is about being present with each other, and staying present in whatever may come. This might mean that one or both of you may decide that the relationship is complete and it is time to consciously move on.

Of course, uncoupling is a possibility whether you have a traditional commitment or a Conscious Commitment, but with a Conscious Commitment, you know that if your partner is with you, he or she really wants to be with you, and because communication is open and honest, there is actually more “space” to resolve and heal any issues that arise, therefore strengthening the relationship.

This type of commitment keeps you focused on making the relationship work – invoking deeper intimacy and heartfelt honesty. The point is, Conscious Commitment keeps you both awake and conscious – and this is the making of a relationship that has the power to last and grow stronger year after year.

Because Conscious Commitment allows you to have a deeper experience of love and communion with another, and build a relationship based on integrity with yourself, your personal and con-joined growth and awakening becomes exponential. This is the evolved purpose of intimate relationships. In lower consciousness, relationships are designed for us to work-out our personal issues, but in higher consciousness, relationships are intended to support our growth and awakening.

An even greater purpose of creating conscious relationships is that we also support the planet as we contribute to bringing forth the evolution of humanity – what we do for ourselves, we also do for each other… so beautiful.

“Conscious Commitment – Why Relationships Fail and How to Make Them Work!” by Nanice Ellis, March 21, 2015 at http://wakeup-world.com/2015/03/21/conscious-commitment-why-relationships-fail-and-how-to-make-them-work/

Original link: Conscious Commitment – Why Relationships Fail and How to Make Them Work!

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