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During the transition of moving from the Ophiuchus constellation, the wound healer, and moving into the fiery element of the Sagittarian influences, this phase of exposure to these cosmic forces that are transmitting from the Galactic Zodiac include various stages and intensities of healing crisis for many people. This time may include the rapid incineration of longstanding patterns of identity and the burning up of the old, painful and decrepit energies of the past. This is similar to the inner spiritual bonfire that can dissolve the constructs of the lower self and clear the attachments to negative beliefs and behaviors that result in energy parasites and thought form possession.
As many people on the planet endure forms of psychological, emotional and spiritual healing crisis, many may be feeling confused about the roller coaster of emotions they may be feeling. One of the most common forms that healing crisis can play out in groups of people, especially those without impulse control or self-awareness, is to get really frustrated and angry from not knowing how to express pent up emotions.
We have a lot of people on this earth who do not know how to handle or diffuse the intensity of pent up emotional anger that they feel bubbling up from deep inside themselves and sourcing from the collective consciousness. Our culture is not taught about the forms of anger, how to diffuse anger, how to gain control over personal impulses of anger, and how to get to the source of anger before it starts to take complete control over that person’s mind, emotions and body. It is important to recognize, now more than ever, expressing uncontrolled anger and violent outbursts without self-control is dangerous to you and dangerous to others. Expressing anger with violence only breeds more anger around you, and will infuse destructive energies into your life.
There are many misconceptions about anger and aggression and how to best cope with it. The most destructive misconception is that it is healthy or effective to display anger in hostile, aggressive or violent ways in order to allow that person to vent their anger impulses. When people act out their anger impulses in the heat of the moment, the results of that persons rage, hostility and violence, even if its momentary, is often destructive and tragic. People cannot make a clear and positive choice when they are stuck in feelings that cycle into rage or anger. Because they allow base negative emotions to take control over them, they are not trustworthy people, as one never knows what may set them off into a seething rage or outburst.
In the current terrain, most people that burst out into hostile anger are enduring short term thought form possession or dark entity possession. When a person loses control over their faculties, and allow hostile anger to take them over, they are used as a vessel to produce and direct energetic harm to themselves and to others. This is called a dark portal, which can be defined by observing a person’s negative behavior that is connected to forms of anger.
There are many forms of anger like: annoyance, irritation, aggravation, agitation, frustration, peeved, annoyed, miffed, sulking, offended, bitter, indignation, exasperation, incensed, pissed, outrage, hostile, spite, vengefulness, resentment, wrath, rage, fury, ferocity, and livid. All of these negative emotional states are risky if they are excessively indulged, and all people should be aware when they are feeling forms of anger, in order to maintain control over their faculties. Hate is also form of anger because when a person chooses to blame the other for their personal difficulties, that is the moment that person has decided to hate them. If hatred or anger is not resolved, the result of accumulated anger is bitterness and resentment, which are some of the most poisonous emotions for the body, mind, and spirit.
Many times people near that person that is expressing forms of anger can get hurt, and even get slimed by the intense bursts of negative energies, like aggression or seething rage. When a person loses control over their anger impulses, they are easily manipulated and they perceive the reality around them much differently, than a person who is calm. Think about this, who has better discernment of events happening in the moment, a person on a rage fest of angry spew or a person who is completely calm and observing the situation and can see the overview? Does the person who is spewing a rage filled blast of negativity into the environment and directing that destructive energy at other people, have any true clarity in that moment while he/she is on the middle of an angry tantrum? No, this is how tragic mistakes occur and people get hurt.
When we get into cycles of expressing uncontrollable rage or anger, our mind and eyes will see through a filter of rage, and that person becomes highly susceptible to delusions, and fabricating a false narrative in order to justify their negative behavior. A delusion is a belief that is held with strong conviction despite superior evidence to the contrary. When we lose control over our faculties from uncontrolled anger or rigid and inflexible thinking, we can only access very limited perceptions, such as false or incomplete information, confabulation, dogma, illusion, or other distortions of perception.
Obviously, if we are making life decisions based on false or incomplete information that is primarily based upon our undisciplined impulses, we are not making informed or aware choices, and this will propel us onto a path of creating more confusion and deception about our correct direction. When people allow themselves to discharge aggression, violence and anger, they put on a filter of anger that skews their vision and perception. Most of the time, people that have consistent outbursts of uncontrolled anger are easily used as dark portals, and whatever they perceive happening is not actually the accurate assessment of what is happening.
When a person allows themselves to be consumed by anger, they lose all control over their reasoning faculties, and they have little to no discernment about the true and accurate version of events. People that let themselves be carried away by forms of aggression or angry outbursts may defend the false ego narrative that led them to the conclusion that the anger outburst was necessary. Because they need to justify their anger, they will easily be led to fabricate a complete delusion about the actual events, because the truth is too unpleasant for them to actually deal with. Many times the truth is that they are unwilling to look at the real cause of the episodes of outbursts of anger, and are unwilling to take responsibility for the problems they have. It’s easier for their mind to make up stories, to fabricate an enemy that can be the object of all their projections and problems, thus rejecting any accountability for their personal actions.
A person unwilling to take responsibility for their angry outbursts are usually high stress controller types or manipulators, and in order to make themselves feel justified for their angry outburst, they will blame someone or something as the cause of their rage. This unwillingness to be accountable to personal actions can result in forms of projection or transference, which is a way to blame someone else for your own negative behaviors and aggressive displays. Thus, as more people feel a lot of inner anger, much of which they do not know how to cope with, they start to find people or things to blame as the direct cause of their anger and rage. We are going to drill this down further, in order to be able to see how anger is generated by improper thinking, the need to place blame on others, real or imagined, which leads to producing more pain, confusion and unhappiness in our life. Wrong actions formed by improper thinking generate more pain, anger and destruction. Right actions formed by right thinking, generate more happiness, love and harmony in our life.
Unfortunately, people often are confused by what is perceived incorrectly through their own need to be okay through self-justification of their negative behaviors, like displays of anger. Some people formulate these distortions as Ego Defense Mechanisms because they have not learned how to free their mind through the use of Negative Ego tools for deeper self-inquiry and to clear out pent up emotions that can lead to angry outbursts and destructive impulses. As we learn to free our mind and love ourselves unconditionally, we know that we are okay without needing to self-justify or defend who we really are that is related to ideas of self-worth.
When we are free of our own need for self-justification, (by increasing our inner self-approval and self-love, no matter where we find ourselves) then we do not need to justify others or justify ourselves, as well as resort to the blame game. We are then freed to be capable of unconditionally loving others no matter what they may be choosing to do in that moment. It is what it is in this moment. One has no control over others nor what others may think about them, based on whatever perceptions or beliefs that have been formed, whether its truth or lies. The quality of our thinking shapes our belief systems and attitudes and is the result of accumulated life memories and the personality filter which form perception, judgment, bias and skills or proficiencies.
The mind may distort information when the ego feels threatened, and that person will fabricate a storyline that fits into the reality they want it to be, rather than what it really is, in order to find a coping mechanism through the feelings of discomfort. When people are using a coping mechanism to self-justify, they present a one-sided argument that is incomplete and based on the faulty thinking of an selfish egoic perception. If we focus on the Spirit of Humility it reduces our need for self-justification and blaming others, which allows us to admit to and learn from our mistakes or negative ego behaviors. Humility is the key to help us overcome many of these thought form distortions which evolve into a host of ego defense mechanisms and delusional thinking. During times of stress, overload, or threat, people often resort to a simplistic form of thinking, called primal survival thinking.
Primal Survival Thinking
Primal thinking when it is repetitive and left unchecked, accumulates factors in people that they may start to believe are true when they are really deceptions they believe about themselves. When we are overstressed or overwhelmed we may go back to the “root” fears or the most primitive layers of the unconscious mind. It is only when we have arrived at a level of trust that we are secure and safe in this world, safe in our relationship with God spirit, that we can fully clear survival root fears and eliminate primal thinking. Whenever we feel unsafe or threatened, we go back to the root of our survival fears, which trigger ego defenses into base negative thoughts like fear.
This is why building the relationship to the core self and building the spiritual practice to deeply connect with our higher power is the most important practice all of us can do. This is the way ego discipline is formed and strength in the energetic foundation of one’s spiritual-energetic core is built. For an accurate assessment of reality and challenging circumstances, it is important to reexamine the situation using purposeful, valid, thoughtful, and accurate analysis that properly allows for the many complexities that we face on the planet today. We can blend a synthesis of the mental analysis of the evidence or facts, mixed with intuitive levels of Higher Sensory Perception in order to have better assessment ability and to understand, the accurate assessment of events of which we are involved.
When we identify these types of mental triggers that take us into distorted thought patterns, through noticing our tension, anxiety or frustration levels, we can switch back into the balance inside ourselves to find a way to release our stress. Immediately we can shift tension through refocusing our mind into breath, or refocusing into the current moment sensory-feeling awareness, or finding a nonviolent way to express the tensions we are feeling. By refocusing oneself at the moment tension or stress is being experienced, it prevents impulsive reactions such as blurting out negative words or expressing angry behaviors at others.
When we express angry behavior impulsively, it is not a pleasant or positive situation for ourselves or others around us. When we have allowed anger to make us impulsive it means we have embodied that angry state, which is not a healthy practice for anyone. Acting out impulsive anger can be very intimidating and bullying to others. This is very emotionally damaging in all people and it breaks trust in creating healthy and safe relationships with others. In most social situations, it is preferable to recognize anger and learn to observe that anger as it builds without allowing the angry state to overwhelm and take over one’s body, mind and emotions. It is possible to witness and feel anger instantaneously and to refocus that anger immediately, in so to refuse anger, hostility or violence to become your identity as a person. This is also demonstrated by having respect for others around you, in so that your angry spew is not vomited onto other people that are around or in the environment.
Impulse Control by Refocusing
As one learns how to refocus one’s thoughts in the moment, one prevents overwhelming states of emotion from triggering impulsive behaviors and angry reactions. As one develops strong impulse control they are learning a form of ego discipline through applied patience. If we check in and find that we do not like what we may be feeling, we can learn better the reasons for that by further shifting into the observer mode. In our community, we call that process of observing as shifting from identifying with a thought or feeling by moving ourselves into the compassionate witness.
As a Compassionate Witness we have no judgment of thoughts or feelings, we hold no judgment of what we are observing in the external, we only observe those thoughts and feelings in our self and others. When we can fully observe through our own Compassionate Witness, we then become neutral and centered and we have no need to exert control, direct harm or get angry. Then, we can immediately find relief from our inner anxiety, fears and a host of other negative thought distortions. This process is key to shifting ego defense mechanisms, clearing the thought addiction tendency and releasing the mental anxiety or fear of feeling emotional depth or pain. By continually using an ego defense mechanism to avoid facing the source causation of the anxiety or deeply rooted fear, (which is unresolved pain or trauma) we are only perpetuating the mental looping which uses denial of the truth in order to avoid feeling pain or discomfort. Denial of the truth is the seed of all deceptions and delusional fantasies that are generated from an unclear and undisciplined mind, which only leads to generating more frustration and anger.
Splitting is a very common Ego Defense Mechanism that occurs when a person is unwilling to know the truth, or take responsibility for their actions and behaviors. If the truth is unpleasant for them, they fabricate a story that is more acceptable to them to justify their belief system. This kind of person would rather listen to pleasant manipulations and deceptions in order to feel better, rather than actually know the truth if its unpleasant for them. Splitting can be defined as the division or polarization of beliefs, actions, objects, or persons into good and bad labels, by focusing selectively on a narrow and incomplete version of perceiving their positive or negative attributes.
Splitting diffuses the mental anxiety that arises from a person’s inability to grasp the nuances and complexities of a given situation or state of affairs by simplifying and schematizing the situation and thereby making it easier to think about and categorize. It also reinforces the sense of self as being labeled as good and virtuous, by effectively demonizing all those who do not share in the same opinions, perceptions and values. On the other hand, such a compartmentalization leaves people with a distinctly distorted picture of reality that creates self-delusions, and a restricted range of thoughts and emotions; it also affects our ability to attract and maintain healthy relationships. People with splitting tendencies are not mentally or emotionally stable, they flip flop between many sporadic impulsive states or outbursts of emotion.
Perceptions can easily flip, with friends and lovers being thought of as personified virtue at one time and then as personified evil at another time (and back and forth). Splitting also arises in groups, when members of the in-group are seen to have mostly positive attributes, whereas members of out-groups are seen to have mostly negative attributes – a phenomenon that contributes to group think and, indeed, inflexible attitudes and lack of acceptance for other people.
Exercise: Analyzing our anger can provide valuable insights into knowing yourself and to increase self-awareness. To analyze the anger you are feeling, begin by examining the perceived loss. Ask yourself:
- What have I lost? Is the loss real?
- What is its value to me?
- Why do I perceive this as important?
- Was this my loss or was it someone else’s? What are their views regarding this loss? How do you know? Why do you care?
- Do I feel insulted? Why? Has my ego been attacked? Have I lost some dignity? Was I ridiculed or humiliated? Has my reputation been damaged? Do I feel less competent? Was I denied fair recognition or reward? Is the insult groundless or is it an accurate interpretation of my behavior? What is the asymmetry that bothers me so much?
- Do I feel powerless? Have I lost autonomy? Do I feel cheated? Was I taken for a sucker? Was a trust betrayed? Was privacy breached?
- Was I coerced into submission or obedience?
- Have I been threatened, injured, struck, abused, attacked, or intimidated?
- Has anyone trespassed on my territory?
- Have my goals been thwarted? Have my freedoms been abridged? Is my safety or security reduced? Is my legacy diminished?
- Have I lost power? Have I lost stature? Have I lost strength? Have I lost influence? Have I lost access? Has a relationship been damaged?
- From a rational point of view, how big is this loss? What impact will it have? How can I recover? Can I just ignore the issue?
Your answers to these questions will provide valuable insights into gaining clarity about your values, beliefs, goals, and needs. Based on what you learn by asking these questions, complete the following sentence: I am angry because I have lost ______. This loss is important to me because I _________. (value, believe, want to achieve, or need). Once you have gained clarity on why you feel angry, then evaluate how strongly you still assess the sensation of loss or injustice.
Now identify the willful agent who is the target of your anger and examine their intent. Ask yourself:
- To what agent do I attribute this action? Who do I hold responsible?
- Did they act deliberately? How do you know? How can you check your assumption of intention?
- Do they consider themselves responsible for the action?
An agent is someone who acted deliberately. If you are angry because you stubbed your toe on the door your choice of agents is limited to: 1) the door, 2) the floor, 3) yourself, 4) someone who pushed you, or 5) Some innocent person who was not even in the room at the time. Note that the first two agents on the list cannot act willfully, and the last did not even act! The Fundamental Attribution Error—incorrectly attributing an action or intent to an agent—is a common mistake that people make. If you find yourself blaming an un-willful agent (e.g. the door or the floor) for your anger, perhaps the change that is needed is that you need to take more responsibility for your own actions.
In order to gain a more accurate assessment, we suggest using the GSF standard of practicing the Law of One in valuing empathy, compassion and kindness, holding a deep appreciation for another’s situation and point of view, as the basis for fairness and proper discernment in every situation, no matter whose fault you may think it is.
Origins, Archetypes, and the Plot of Anger
Anger encourages us to act on our sense of fairness. Anger may be interpreted in many of the following ways:
- A demeaning offense against me or what is perceived as mine.
- Interference with what we are intent on doing. Thwarted goals. Frustration.
- Intentional physical harm toward us; actual, threatened, or reasonably perceived,
- Intentional psychological or emotional harm toward us, including insult, humiliation, denigration, intimidation, or rejection,
- Disappointment in the performance of others we care about; we get most angry at the people we love the most,
- Witnessing the anger of another, especially when it is directed at you.
- The nonverbal message of anger to others is “get out of my way” or “I want to hurt you”.
Benefits and Dangers of Anger
The anger mechanism can provide important personal messaging about the state of wellbeing and consciousness we are experiencing in the moment. Here are some of those benefits:
- Anger tells us that something needs to change. Are you willing to make the changes required?
- Anger can provide the motivation to constructively change whatever it was that caused the anger. It can energize the fight for legitimate rights. It can motivate us to overcome oppression.
- Anger can provide the motivation to constructively correct an inequality. It urges us to act on our sense of fairness and justice.
- Anger can help to reduce or overcome fear and provide the energy needed to mobilize needed change.
- Anger sends a powerful signal that informs others of trouble or harm. It notifies the offender that you have perceived an offense.
- Anger can be a general response to an external stimulus that needs to be addressed or knowing that there are problems that need to be resolved.
One of the most dangerous features of anger is that expressing anger increases the anger of others around you and this incites violence and harm into the environment. This can lead to a rapid and dangerous escalation of destructive and painful energies spreading like a virus. People may try to harm the target of their anger, whether its justified or not. The impulse to harm is probably a central part of the anger response for most people, thus telling us it directly leads to committing actions of violence and brutality. While anger can be dangerous and must be constrained, it should be acknowledged for the reasons it is there, and not be denied, or covered up by deceptions and lies. When we learn to control our angry impulses, and stop directing regular angry outbursts at others, choosing instead to source our anger and be responsible for our own behavior, we start to help build our own sense of positively coping with stress, which helps to build our self-esteem and confidence. Self-esteem is what is needed to know that you can get through the challenges and stressors of everyday life without fear or feeling threatened by others because they have different belief systems or perceptions.
Building Self Esteem
Building self-esteem formally is the outlook to experience oneself as competent and adequate to cope with the basic challenges of life and worthy of happiness and fulfillment. Others (parents, teachers, friends) can nurture and support self-esteem in an individual, but true self-esteem relies upon various internally generated practices and positive belief systems and motivations. To be responsible to take care of oneself, and face stress competently and confidently is one way of building a strong base for self-esteem. In Nathan Branden’s framework, there are six pillars of generating and building self-esteem which help people to better cope with stress and anger:
- Living consciously: the practice of being aware of what one is doing while one is doing it, i.e., the practice of mindfulness.
- Self-acceptance: the practice of owning truths regarding one’s thoughts, emotions, and behaviors; of being kind toward oneself with respect to them; and of being your own good friend.
- Self-responsibility: the practice of owning one’s authorship of one’s actions and of owning one’s capacity to be the cause of the effects one desires.
- Self-assertiveness: the practice of treating one’s needs and interests with respect and of expressing them in appropriate ways.
- Living purposefully: the practice of formulating goals and of formulating and implementing action plans to achieve them.
- Personal integrity: the practice of maintaining alignment between one’s behaviors and convictions. Speaking in alignment to your true and authentic self.
Getting more clarity on the source of our own stress and anger and using the tools to refocus our mind in order to gain control over our personal impulses is a critical skill needed during these turbulent times. If you are not in control of your mental and emotional impulses, something else will take over your mind and emotions, and as a result, you are a high risk for exposure to manipulation, delusions, and possession as a dark portal. In addition to being easily manipulated by the world of forces and other people, you will also lose all discernment in clarity, accurate assessment, self-determination, sovereignty and personal truth. This is an important survival skill for all Starseeds, Indigos and awakening people to be able to see the risk and signs of people around us that are run by uncontrollable forms of anger and emotional outbursts, and to recognize they are people traumatized in pain, and are not people that have accurate perceptions of events or act with ethical conduct to demonstrate solid trustworthiness. Above all at this time, learn to be kind and develop true humility in all situations, gain control over your impulses and diffuse anger, as it will serve you in boundless ways in the longer term.
(Source: Ascension Glossary, Ego Defense Mechanism, Emotional Competency, Anger link )