Bernhard Guenther – Compassionate Mirroring In Relationships – 10-8-18 – How To Exit The Matrix

Compassionate Mirroring In Relationships


How To Exit The Matrix

By Bernhard Guenther

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We all need feedback and reflection sometimes from a good friend about some stuff we are going through on a personal level because there is only so much self-work you can do by “yourself”. We all have blind spots and can’t see ourselves fully objectively. Most unconscious stuff only comes up in relationship (not just the romantic kind).

Compassionate mirroring is especially needed in a “conscious relationship” with an intimate partner which goes way beyond just enjoying “romance”. I’m very grateful to my partner Laura that we are able to hold space for each other that way and dive deep with compassion, love and emotional vulnerability in a safe/sacred container, never forgetting/losing the connection to the Divine/the true self. It is the most important foundation in a “conscious” relationship where unconscious stuff tends to come up, ironically – brought to light – which is the whole point of a “conscious” relationship. It’s like an alchemical catalyst that heals both partners and strengthens the relationship via transmuting it into “higher” expressions of love each time and the bond grows stronger.

However, what is also needed is a strong foundation of collinearity beyond mutual “interests” or “personality traits” but a spiritual foundation where both people “look into the same direction” with a common aim. It also all depends on both partner’s level of being and how each person is SINCERELY engaged in their own self-work as individuals and the work they have already done in the past.

“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”
– Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

It is important that the other person (friends, partner) we confide in and ask for feedback is also sincerely engaged in the same work with a basic understanding of psychology and archetypal relationship dynamics (not just the romantic kind), such as shadow projection, childhood wounding (everyone is wounded to one degree of another because no one had perfect parents that were 100% available all the time attending to your needs) and how childhood wounding affects the present unconsciously.

Other factors come in as well, such as occult interferences, psychic attacks, related to the “topic of all topics”. But the basic foundation is the deeper inner work, because occult entities work through our wounding, blind spots and ego hooks which they feed off of. This is the Archonic/Wetiko alien infection (Paul Levy), Castaneda’s predator, Sri Aurobindo’s occult hostile forces or the General Law in the esoteric christian tradition, etc., trying to keep us plugged into the Matrix. We cut off their food source through sincere self-work and not becoming slaves to our emotional mechanical reactions and triggers. It’s also important to establish the inner witness in order to observe ourselves. This is a very different state then “getting into ones head”. It’s about being present on all levels, body, mind, emotion, and spirit. A trusted friend/partner can help us with that.

If we confide in or seek feedback from someone who is not engaged in sincere self-work and doesn’t understand basic psychology or how occult forces “operate” and influence us, then the feedback we receive might only strengthen our false self, the buffers with all the ego-mind’s justifications or they may put us down via shadow projections. Everyone wants to feel good, but sincere self-work is a destructive process. It entails confronting all the lies we’ve been telling ourselves, our wounds we have buffered up, our entitlement of what we think we want and need from others, our expectations, etc. Diving deep into the self can be very disturbing and challenging, causing physical and emotional pain, especially when we receive mirrors from others that point out issues in ourselves we never really saw before. But the person giving the mirror needs to be aware of the issue of projection, so the mirror is not a disguised shadow projection, hence, again, we need someone who has this understanding and is SINCERELY engaged in the work him/herself. But most importantly is for us to look into the mirror ourselves and ask: How sincere am I?

In order to do self-work we also need to know HOW to do it and that entails study and reading as well. Our mind and emotions can fool us so much. There is no way we can just “feel”, “meditate” or “think” ourselves through it without knowledge of how to do self-work, be it esoteric or psychological knowledge. We may get glimpses of insights here and there, but we can still fool ourselves without being aware of it if we don’t have a “higher context”, over-estimating ourselves in the process, even possibly engaging in spiritual bypassing. Moreover, knowledge needs to be applied. We all can have great insights and get inspired when we are reading some spiritual/psychological quotes/books when we are in a good place/space, but when the rubber hits the road and stuff comes up we sometimes tend to forget what we just learned and almost regress to the wounded child and the false personality and we literally forget ourselves – our true self. Again, a trusted friend/partner can help us stay “on track”, like being “alarm clocks” to each other as Gurdjieff said.

So, receiving feedback from others can make things better or worse. Many factors come on. If it makes us feel better, it does not necessarily mean that the feedback is true, but can feed our neurotic narcissistic ego, bypassing what needs to be confronted. Likewise if the feedback we get hurts something in us, it doesn’t necessarily mean that this is not true or that the other person is trying to hurt us. We have an astonishing ability to fool ourselves, lie to ourselves and feel justified in our “likes” and “dislikes” hardly questioning what “I” is speaking at any given moment, the true self or the conditioned/wounded self. Shocks and disillusionment are part of the process.

Obviously positive re-enforcement and encouraging the other person is very much needed as well, if it comes from a sincere place. Not all mirrors are about pointing out our “wounded” blindspots but also about bringing to light the other person’s soul-embodied power, joy, talents and inspirations – to truly SEE the other person. The work never stops either but all there is are lessons. There is also no end to love.

Read more about relationships on Bernhard’s website, Piercing the Veil of Reality.




Oprah Winfrey talks with Thich Nhat Hanh – Power of Compassion –


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KATHLEEN MARY WILLIS – How Things Work in the Higher Realms – Compassion for Negative Emotions – Golden Age Of Gaia – 8-19-18



Past and present, we have been, and are, witnesses to behaviour not of love.

Now is the time for conscious change to LOVE within/without.

How do we LOVE everyone when we do not trust certain behaviour patterns?

For example, those engaging in pedophilia, drug addiction, or leaders abusing power?

Are those behaviours in the without — the ones that trigger us — metaphors, reflections of hatred of self within?


I had a long, difficult marriage, many life lessons to really get what doesn’t work.

I Am Love for my former husband but I do not trust certain behaviour patterns.

With this distrust, I am coming to understand greater compassion, the Love.

From a place of non-judgement, the deeper I go into the heart, the more layers I peel, the greater compassion I have for self/others.

I am the change for the forgiveness of everything, that place of compassion, non-judgement, and the joy, the gratitude for the life lessons.


The movement of Love is everything.

feel compassion for the false grid of hatred within, that behaviour pattern not of love.

I make an imaginary phone call to the Mother/my self/Father, One/others — my former husband — saying I apologize, I forgive, how I LOVE and appreciate you/myself, how I am gratitude for all the life lessons. Over and over until I truly feel this on a deep level.

I invoke the Mother, the Universal Law of Elimination,
and the blessing and virtue of compassion
for the hatred and limitation.

Feeling non-judgement, I hold the highest vision for change, transmutation, and elimination of behaviour patterns not of love within/without.

With deep compassion, forgiveness, gratitude within/without, I come to understand Who I Am with more clarity for boundaries. I have learned what doesn’t work.


With greater Love for self within/others without, we create community.

We are changing the old paradigm of not caring to caring, within/without.

I Am Love and Worth/We Are Love and Worth

Self is All/We are One.

G E N D E R   E Q U A L I T Y   B A L A N C E

DEVOTION to female energy and male energy within
the Mother/Father ONE within/without, above/below.

Movement and the wisdom,
forgiving my self, the forgiveness of self
for not expressing and experiencing my self as Divine,
feeling compassion, non-judgement, holding the highest vision.
I Love and appreciate my self. I am gratitude, the joy, for my life purpose.




How Things Work in the Higher Realms – Compassion is Loving Self Others – By Kathleen Mary Willis – via Golden Age Of Gaia – 8-12-18


Kathleen Mary Willis

Did you know we take 17-30,000 breaths and have 50-70,000 thoughts a day? (1)

As we become more and more conscious of our thoughts, emotions, and actions, we realize that, each day, there are thousands of opportunities — connected to our breath, our thoughts — to be the blessing of compassion, the Mother’s Loving Movement.

To allow understanding and the knowing of how things work in the higher realms to flow through us. . .

Thousands of opportunities to bless ourselves/others,
rather than to judge ourselves/others.

Self is All.

When we do not engage in drama or disarray, within or without, we’re being the virtue of compassion, the Father’s Wisdom.

When we’re still, quiet, around our own discomfort, thoughts and feelings, not projecting onto another, with ability to listen to our own inner guidance, or to another’s troubles, without judgement, without taking on any burden, we are being the virtue of compassion; we’re being heart conscious.

Being this way, we find there’s no need to defend self/others,

assume an ego-defensive attitude, or justify self/others.

All judgement  d i s s o l v e s.

Compassion is

holding the highest vision

for self/others, and for everything.

Honouring another’s choices, without trying to fix, heal, change — knowing we do not necessarily understand what another is going through — is the true sense, the virtue of compassion.

We can utilize the power of compassion, be sympathetic yet detached from ‘triggering’ situations, reflections — mirrors of self/others — with ability to forgive and graciously make and accept amends to self/others.

Being forgiving,

having forgiveness in our hearts

for self/others, creates balance within.

Doing this we are the blessing of compassion,

feeling compassion, Loving self/others,

being the virtue of compassion

without any judgement

is  B A L A N C E

with 17-30,000 breaths

and 50-70,000 thoughts a day.


Thanks to Golden Age Of Gaia



THE COMPASSION ROAD – BY Kathleen Mary Willis – Gender Equality Begins Within – 8-5-18 – via Golden Age Of Gaia



Golden Age Of Gaia

Sanat Kumara told the New You group in 2014 that they were transcending time and space reality and added:

“I want you to know this in the very core of your brilliant tri-flame, which none of you are working enough with, by the way.” (1)

Thanks to

Let’s look in a little more depth at that tri-flame and how it relates to gender equality.

Gender equality begins within.

Within our emerald heart chakra is our tri-flame, the Mother’s Blue Flameour own pink flame with it’s silver core, and the Golden Flame of the Father.

These flames when burning brightly, equal in strength and vitality, are gender equality within.

With equal Love for our Divine Mother, our feminine energy and our Divine Father, our masculine energy, in peace and the forgiveness, LOVE and the compassion, joy and the gratitude we are BALANCE, gender equality within.


In contemplation of our tri-flame, we find understandings, clues to our becoming.

The knowing of the Mother’s Movement of Peace, ability to forgive everything, and the Peace of the Father, thewisdom of forgiveness, is held within the blue flame.

The Mother’s Compassion, Love for everything, ability to bless everything, be non-judgemental, and the Virtue of the Father to hold the highest vision of the Love for All, is found in our pink flame.

The Mother’s Joy, our sacred mission, action, physical building of Nova Being, Nova Earth, and our sacred purpose, the Joy of the Father, the gratitude for the balance of gender equality, is found in the golden flame.

Equal qualities of the Mother’s Movement, Her Ability of Blessing, of Loving Everything, and the Love, the Wisdom, the Virtue of the Father are found in each flame.

Mother + Father = ONE

A balanced tri-flame is gender equality.

Understanding and knowing
feminine and masculine,
blessing and virtue,
N o v a  B e i n g

We = One

Sanat Kumara:

“Long ago the Council has given you the exercise of two fingers to the heart to give the Love and open another’s heart.

“Now this is not merely a feel-good or esoteric exercise. You can touch the hearts of millions all at once. You can give them this gift.

“You can line them up and say, ‘Today I am opening the hearts of all the recalcitrants. Today I am opening up all the hearts of ISIS. Today I am opening up all the hearts of all who sit in governance.’ And simply do it. You are far more powerful than you have recognized and given yourself credit for.

“Now we know how powerful you are. We are not partnering with juniors. You are not in a training phase. And we have passed the preparedness and the readiness. We are in action, beloveds!” (2)

Heart Consciousness
Love  is  E v e r y t h i n g

The Scales of Justice: the Knowing of Balance,
the Gratitude for Gender Equality Within/Without





ARCHANGEL MICHAEL – Mastery, The Integration of Light Frequencies – via Shanta Gabriel – 4-20-18


Dear Ones,

We will speak today of Mastery. Mastery of yourself in the world becomes the principle that allows you to thrive on the Earth, where discipline and focus are essential. However, this discipline is not in a harsh or strict sense of being, but more from alignment with your Highest Self.

Withdraw your focus from attention to the waves of change going on in the world. Instead, create a deep system of roots and core connections to the world of Nature and the Earth that supports and nourishes you on an energetic level. You will find that this focus will serve you in greater ways than you have known before.

Mastery is made simple when one can stay in alignment with the soul’s highest reality in any given moment. This allows you to be in the center of your being in full awareness, no matter what is going on outside of you.

The integration of Light Frequencies is a process that allows you to become a master of your energy system in this new time of awakening. Awareness of this process accentuates your inner knowing and allows a deeper connection to your Core of Truth to be available in each moment. You are opening doors to new higher frequencies when you integrate the waves of light as they come to you.

Know that as you fully embody these frequencies you become more whole, which allows life to take on more joy. There is an ability to move from your core with more ease and a deeper awareness within your heart as you awaken to the Divine in every moment. This means that you are truly living in your Light Body in a 5th Dimensional world.

Throughout time there have been moments that require you to step into your role as a spiritual warrior. This is one of those times, as you become aligned with your soul at the deepest core of your being, letting that impulse your action in the world. The strength of the warrior also includes the gentle fierceness of Compassion acting as the fire of Truth within you. Wisdom and Love combined with the Power of your center 

The decisiveness of the warrior is balanced by the compassion of the heart, thus becoming the centering aspect that supports your mastery on the Earth. Deep humility becomes a core attribute as the warrior recognizes that all is accomplished only through the Will of the Divine. Not my will but thy will be done, as it has been said. Then surrender takes place within the solar plexus as it lets go of self-righteousness. When you do this, a surprisingly calm inner strength is created for you within the balance of Love, Wisdom and Power.

Compassion becomes a balancing agent in your life that can activate your inner gyroscope. Trust that as you set this balancing energy into motion with your intentions, a new way of life unfolds.

Mastery of your emotional and mental components creates your energetic foundation as your alignment with the Higher Focus of Will activates your guidance system for life, then all is truly well.

And so it is.


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PRIYANKA – What Does It Take For a Compassionate Community? – 1-23-18 – by Excellence Reporter

photo 1A community is made up of families and families are made of individuals. It follows that a compassionate community is made up of compassionate families. And compassionate families must have compassionate individuals at their root.

One way that reflects the state of our emotional health and how compassionate we are as a community is in how we take care of elderly parents and grandparents in our families. So how are we taking care of the elderly? There are many among us who are grateful and respectful towards our parents. And we do the best within our capacities to take care of them. We come across many examples of adult children’s respectful caretaking of old parents, from those who take out every bit of time from their busy lives to take care of ailing parents to those who are there whenever parents have a need.