Avery Rogers – How to Stop Feeling Inadequate – Let Go of Heavy Expectations – Tiny Buddha .com

Stressed Man

 

Avery Rogers

“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.” ~Charles Dickens

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When I was seven years old, my parents had me take an IQ test for an application to a private school near our new home.

I vaguely remember sitting with the proctor, answering question after question about vocabulary and spatial recognition. To seven-year-old me, the test was nothing more than a fun logic puzzle, and I delighted at each question I knew the answer to, bright eyed and enthusiastic.

While I don’t recall my exact score, the numbers were unusually high—in fact, so high that the proctor expressed her surprise to my parents that I was not suffering from some form of high-functioning autism.

From age seven on, I was placed in the most gifted classes in both public and private school. I enjoyed the challenge, and the attention I received, until I became a teenager.

In my transition to adolescence, I became aware of the incredible teenagers around the world writing novels, promoting peace, and inventing the types of machinery and technology that change the world.

These individuals inspired me, but secretly implanted a deep sense of fear and angst in my mind.

For as long as I could remember, people had been telling me, “Avery, you are going to do amazing things with your life,” while I spent my life like any other teenager: school, sports practice, homework, food, bed, repeat. I was not accomplishing any great feats.

I slowly began to feel like I was failing to fulfill my full potential as a human being.

Being exceptionally gifted, once a joy and privilege, had become a toxin to my emotional well-being. I was all consumed by my ego telling me that I should be more—or I was wasting my intellect.

This led me to sporadically start novels, blogs, articles, anything to prove myself worthy of my intelligence. I would give up on each one quickly and move on to my next idea, as unsuccessful as the first.

No matter what I tried, the world still did not know my name—the only thing, I thought, that could make feel adequate.

About a year ago, it dawned on me that my pattern of self-dissatisfaction and disappointment was unsustainable.

No matter what I did, no matter how many people knew my name, it made no difference. I always craved more, and anything less than becoming the next Einstein was a personal failure.

So, with that in mind, I began the arduous process of redefining success in my life. The only way I could do this, I learned, was to help others realize their own goodness.

I began with my personal mantra:

“It is better to change one person’s life than to have 1,000 know your name.”

I stumbled upon this realization somewhat suddenly, after taking a two-week long trip with my grade. I invested myself in helping my friends with sickness and fear, and I came away changed; I finally felt like I’d accomplished something permanent and meaningful.

Instead of living for recognition from the world, I began to look for satisfaction through my personal relationships. I no longer needed to change the world to be successful; I just needed to know that I had changed someone’s life for the better.

Surprisingly, this is a relatively easy task to accomplish with discipline. By investing myself in relationships with my friends, acquaintances, and partner, I began to receive incredible feedback.

People genuinely began to thank me—not for being kind, but for literally changing their lives.

The key for me was genuinely listening to others, and caring about their needs and opinions. Helping people came naturally to me, and remains the best gift I can give to others; not some profound piece of writing or technological advancement.

Typically, the people around me who I listened to had similar issues of inadequacy. I was not alone. They too believed themselves to be failures, unable achieve their potential, whether that potential was straight A’s or a sports scholarship or being kind.

I could see the innate goodness of the people around me shining through, and it pained me to see them suffer from feelings of inadequacy. I knew, deep down, that everyone around me was good and pure and beautiful, as all children of this earth are.

As a result, I realized through time that if the people around me were all beautiful and good, as all people are, then I must be good too—just the way I am and always will be.

By loving others, I had already achieved my purpose on this earth: to be the inherently sympathetic and kind creature that all human beings are.

I now actively seek people around me who need my care, and indulge them when necessary. Love has taken precedence in my life over material accomplishment, as it truly should. I have closer, more meaningful relationships, more acquaintances, and an exponentially higher self esteem.

The beauty is, people reciprocate genuine love: the people you help will be there for you in your times of need, too. Love is a self-fulfilling prophecy that can only be positive for all parties involved.

At the end of the day, people simply want to receive love and attention; and through giving others these things, I not only improved their lives, but my own perception of myself.

I was able to focus on the immediate positive impact my life was making on that of others, and I finally felt purposeful and that I was leading a meaningful life.

The truth is, not everyone can change the entire world, and not everyone needs to. All we can do is give as much love in our lives as possible, treat ourselves kindly, and leave the world a more positive place than we entered it.

That is all I can ask of myself, and I try to leave all other expectations of myself behind—the ones of impermanent success that can only bring me dissatisfaction and suffering.

Maybe thousands do not know your name, but you have the power to completely change the lives of those around you with love; and that, I’ve learned, is far more gratifying and important.

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About Avery Rogers

Avery Rogers is a high school student in California. She aspires to be an author, spiritual writer, and neurologist when she grows up. She recently began her personal blog, Pluto’s Journal, at plutosjournal.wordpress.com where she shares her insights about growing up, love, faith, and meaning. Visit her blog for contact information and more of her work.

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Oversoul Teachings via Wes Annac – Enthusiasm is Essential – 7-7-14

Oversoul Teachings: “Enthusiasm is Essential” Channeled through Wes Annac, July 6, 2014 – http://wesannac.com/2014/07/06/enthusiasm-is-essential/

As long as you make an effort, you can sharpen your ability to be receptors for the energy and information of the divine, and in doing so, you’ll find that you’re infinitely able to connect with us and use this connection for the benefit of the conscious public.

You have to be able to believe in yourselves and your divinely ordained abilities before you can enjoy the fruits of such a belief, and we’ve said plenty of times in the past that believing in yourselves and your abilities is key to using them to help others.

Some of you tend to feel as if your creative spark has burned out; as if you can’t contribute to humanity’s evolution in the immense ways you’d like to be able to. You’re in control of your energy and depletion, and if you choose, you can be filled to the brim with elation.

Your resulting enthusiasm to contribute to your planet’s evolution will grow immensely, and we can envision waves of seekers stepping up to offer themselves to your ascension when they realize just how infinitely capable they are of using their gifts and talents to contribute to the restoration of consciousness.

Spiritually Inspired Creative Works

More seekers are becoming aware of spirit by the day, and as they do, they seek to offer themselves to your ongoing evolution with creative works that are inspired by spirit. Every seeker has the opportunity to start contributing to your ascension in immensely potent and helpful ways, but if you aren’t enthusiastic about helping humanity evolve, you might experience a distorted creative flow.

Enthusiasm is essential to doing or being anything, and along with believing in yourselves, enthusiasm will help you strengthen the potency of your creative works and make it far easier to get into the creative flow so many of you enjoy being in.

Channeling is one of the best ways to find and remain in this flow, but there are plenty of things you can do to access and benefit from it. Whether you write; channel; play music; paint beautiful pictures and landscapes, or do anything else creative, they contribute a lot to your collective evolution.

Every creative work that’s intended to help humanity become aware of spirt is greatly needed and greatly, greatly appreciated, and we seek to help those of you who are dedicated to using your creativity to assist in your planet’s evolution.

We’re doing everything we can to help you act on your respective creative flows as much and as often as possible, and if you decide to act on the advice and guidance we provide, you might find that your creative ventures are a lot easier and more enjoyable.

Those of you who enjoy writing, for example, can pick up on the energy of your guides and have them ‘write’ through you if you want.

You don’t have to limit yourselves in any way, and your ability to use your creative works for good depends on how open you are to the influence of spirit and how willing you are to access a deeper part of your consciousness and use it to strengthen your creativity.

The famous seekers throughout your history who used their talents to help uplift and inform humanity were tapped into a deeper and purer part of themselves, and you can each access your inner creativity and use it to help the rest of humanity find a higher vibration, spreading as much love and knowledge as possible in the process.

You’re on the earth to help humanity become aware of spirit and, eventually, ascend, but it’s important to remember that you’re also ascending. Give plenty of time and focus to your own ascension paths, and understand that your creativity is very important to finding a higher state of consciousness.

The more creative you are, the more you’ll strengthen your higher-dimensional links, and if you’re particularly inspired to create and use the influence of spirit to assist such creations, you’ll find that your ability to reach a higher state of consciousness grows.

Those of you who are particularly creative are encouraged to meditate before and after you work. Meditating beforehand will boost your creativity when the time comes to put it onto paper, and meditating afterward will expand on the energies you were able to bring through and make your next creative venture more enjoyable.

Focus, Commitment, and Dedication

Those of you who are using your creativity for the benefit of others will begin to find it much easier to reach the deeper states of consciousness that seemed so difficult to reach in the past, and with focus, commitment, and dedication, your creative and meditative flows will be stronger and smoother than they’ve ever been.

We note how ready some of you are to experience the greater states of consciousness you’ve heard so much about, and this is one of many reasons we recommend meditation or another, similar practice that helps you perceive and anchor a higher vibration to your planet for yourselves and the rest of humanity to benefit from.

Some seekers understand the benefits of meditation, but a lot of seekers are still in the dark about just what it can do and provide for you. Meditation provides a very direct link to the other side of the veil, and the same can be said for channeling and other, similar higher-vibrational practices.

The more you practice these things, the easier it’ll be to re-find the higher vibration you seek, and when you’re in a particularly pure state of mind and heart, everything you seek – creatively or otherwise – flows very easily and smoothly.

The clear and pure flow so many of you seek can be found in a higher state of consciousness, and those of you who are interested in discovering your passion and flowing from there are, again, encouraged to meditate on your talents and use such meditative time to reflect on what works best for you and what you enjoy doing the most.

If you find something you enjoy and you feel like you should use it to help your planet, nothing has to stop you from doing just that. If you become enthusiastic about a certain creative project or venture, there’s no reason not to embrace it with every facet of yourselves.

Ego-centered thought forms may try to convince you it isn’t worth your time and you should simply give up, but you won’t do yourselves or anyone else a justice by letting them influence you.

Instead of following the guidance of these thought forms, who want the awakening public to retreat back into their shells, you can transcend your perception of limitation and greet the newer, constantly expanding versions of yourselves that are unfolding for the rest of creation to behold.

Despite your infinite capabilities, we encourage you to find what works best for you and use it to help others become aware of the sacred truths of your existence, for in doing so, you’ll strengthen humanity’s overall link to the higher realms and make it easier for waves of potential seekers to open up to spirit when the time comes.

All of humanity is destined to open up to spirit and the greater perception you’re each starting to tap into, and we’ve said before that the goal of the Company of Heaven is for all of humanity to ascend this time around. We aim to achieve this goal, but provisions have been set for earthly souls who subconsciously decide not to ascend this time around and to experience their lower-dimensional growth in other realms and on other planets instead.

Many of the souls who are passing on from your world have chosen to stay in the fourth dimension and complete their life path work from there, but others have chosen to live on other third-dimensional planets, the conditions of which are much easier to exist in.

These souls will grow back into the higher realms in their own time, and it might take some of them a few lengthy life cycles to do so, but this is their choice and it’s honored, respected, and loved.

We can’t and won’t force any soul to lighten their vibration and ascend, because the choice is entirely yours and we have no desire to change this. Freewill is absolutely and unflinchingly honored through the universe, and whether it’s the lower freewill to hurt others or the higher freewill to remain in a certain state of consciousness, it’s honored.

We’re all facets of Source; of our creator, and this is in part why we respect and honor each other so much. We’d never take an earthly soul off of a path they’ve chosen for themselves, and those who don’t choose to ascend this time around will eventually be able to.

An Element of Harshness

The purpose of the lower dimensions is to provide the souls who travel there a harsh environment to grow and learn lessons in, but most other lower-vibrational environments aren’t nearly as harsh as the earth’s.

The earth’s environment has always had an element of harshness to it, with the exception of when your surface resonated unflinchingly with the fifth dimension, but in the past millennia of your time, the darkness and density have been turned up to extreme proportions as the surface of the earth became a hub for self-serving forces who sought to use her as a physical farm and humanity as a physical/energetic farm.

These forces sought to control humanity by forcing most of your society into seemingly moderate forms of slavery, and the masked system of indentured servitude most of your developed world is under wasn’t always as ’fair’ and ‘equal’ as it is now.

Indeed, it still isn’t nearly as ‘fair’ as a growing number of seekers would like for it to be, but the method of slavery you’re under today is less oppressive than the slavery that was common in plenty of other centuries of your time and, unfortunately, still is in some parts of your world.

The method in which you’re forced to give your energy away is due to change, but it can only change if you can all raise awareness about it and do the inner work that’ll help transform the collective consciousness.

If everyone on your planet stationed themselves on a higher vibration, myriad important changes would be able to be made in an easier way than if your vibration remained the same.

Indentured servitude has to come to an end before you can construct the brimming, galactic society so many of you are so ready to see, and this is why we implore those of you who’ve discovered spirit and the unfairness of your current system to work as hard as you can, raising your vibration and transforming everything about your planet that doesn’t resonate with the ideals of the new society you want to create.

The ascent of your collective vibration will be synonymous with your construction of the society of your dreams, and it’s becoming obvious to more and more seekers that the life path work you do is the biggest determiner of the progress that’s made on the world stage.

It might seem strange for some of you to comprehend that living in love and raising your vibration will be a more direct and helpful way of creating change than, say, firing all of your self-serving governments, but this is indeed true.

The changes that need made to your physical reality will follow suit when every seeker makes a potent effort to raise their vibration, and we’ll make our final expressions for this communication with endless encouragement to continue raising and refining your vibration in preparation for the events that are to come, which, of course, you’ll create.

We can’t express the importance of living in love and orienting to the divine qualities enough, and if you could view your planet from our perspective, you’d see that the things you do and feel within are more important than most anything else.

You have the ability to completely transform your society and the defunct manner in which it operates, but to do so, you have to transmute whatever defunct energies and emotions remain within. You can do it, and you have the assistance of the entirety of the Company of Heaven, which you can draw on when you feel depleted or as if you aren’t achieving the missions you set out to achieve.

You’re making far more progress than most of you realize, and we’ll continue to cheer you on from the sidelines, happily and enthusiastically waiting for the day when our communication can be more direct.

This day isn’t very far off from our perspective, and it doesn’t have to be from yours either. Patience is as important as any other divine quality, and the harder you work in this and every moment of now, the less time that’ll seem to have gone by before we’re face to face.

Thank you to my higher self and spiritual guides.

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I’m a 21 year old awakening seeker and creator of The Culture of Awareness daily news site. The Culture of Awareness features daily spiritual and alternative news, as well as articles I’ve written and more. Its purpose is to awaken and uplift by providing material that’s spiritually inspired and/or related to the fall of the planetary elite and our entrance into a positive future. I can also be found at Oversoul Teachings, The Golden Age of Gaia, Lightworkers.org, Ashtar Command Crew, Facebook (Wes Annac and The Culture of Awareness), and Twitter. Photo Credit: Ineedmotivation.com

Genele Boyce – The Chuck-It List – Golden Age Of Gaia – 5-10-14

cutmypic(1)Steve Beckow: Genele is a Seattle Intuitive and Transformational Life Coach. I suppose I just chucked a great deal, proving the value of what Genele says here. (1)

The Chuck-It List

by Genele Boyce, Heartmind Life, May 1, 2014 | Thanks to Golden Age of Gaia.

https://www.facebook.com/heartmindcoach

The other night, while having dinner with a friend, the subject came up of bucket lists, along with my friend’s palpable disdain for them. Suddenly he announced, in his usual witty way, “I’m not interested in bucket lists, I’ve created my own personalized chuck-it list.”

This, of course created a direct hit to my funny bone. Unable to contain my laughter, he continued, “ No I’m serious, I’m interested in what I can do today that makes my life better so I’ve started making lists of those things I cannot stand to do any more or ways of being that no longer serve me.”

For example he said: “I hate mowing my lawn, so I chucked it to a gardener, who now mows it for me.” I asked are you serious? And he said, “Yes, I add to it every day and constantly check things off. You should try it. It’s very freeing.”

Suddenly the light bulb went off in my heart, so I asked if I could borrow it. What I love is that these are doable daily choices with no expectation of outcomes inherent with bucket lists. He was absolutely right. It’s empowering and it’s freeing.

Years ago when I made a conscious choice to live my life from the inside out, I realized I had some spring cleaning to do. It took a lot of diving below the water line, chucking beliefs that really weren’t mine. It took letting go and getting clear about who I am. And, it taught me how to create the life I want to live.

This process takes courage and much self-awareness.  Now, I focus daily on what’s working instead of what’s not. I identify those things I want to create more of.

Why not go ahead and create your own chuck-it list? What a wonderful opportunity to become more aware of the choices you make and the habits and behaviors you’ve got. Look at everything  and chuck what you’ve outgrown, things that don’t serve you or who you’ve become.

Every moment of every day we make a choice, whether we’re aware of it or not. Some choices are conscious; most are not. Many are reactions to the world around us. Others may be based on false or limiting beliefs, and many are the invisible ways we think.

But there is only one way to get you to where you want. That’s awareness, clarity and alignment with who you really are and who you’re not. How can you get there when you carry a heavy load of things you can chuck that you didn’t even know about?

Now here’s your litmus test: What isn’t working, what do I want instead, and is it aligned with my heart or my head?  When you catch it, grab a pen and put it on your list, take action and chuck it instead.

Chucking can be so liberating. I invite you to chuck whatever’s limiting. Chuck old beliefs, clothes, shoes that don’t fit. Chuck clutter, baggage and the trash in your can. Chuck fears and worries, anxieties and hurries. Chuck have to’s and should’s, I can’t’s and if only’s. Chuck regrets, the past and things you can’t change. Because, If you don’t chuck it, you’ll create more of the same.

Be bold with your own chuck-it list. Write it down and put it on your fridge. Remember what you resist persists; what you perceive you receive. Get clear, take action and chuck all the rest. Start living from your heart and not from your head. Focus on what’s working and what you want instead.

And that, beautiful beings, is a choice.

http://aquariusparadigm.com/2014/05/10/genele-boyce-the-chuck-it-list/

Footnotes

(1) “System Restore” at http://goldenageofgaia.com/2014/05/10/system-restore/.

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