by Karen Star,
Guest writer, In5D.com
Even in today’s age of growing gender equality, the onus is still predominantly on our men to make the first move in relationships and many of you are struggling with this. So, allow me to pass on an important tip to winning the heart of that Goddess you have fallen for – One which will place you way ahead of any other suitors who may be knocking on her door.
As a single, spiritually awakened woman, I don’t get out much in the real life social scene. I’m done with the small talk from men, the awkward chat up lines and most definitely being appraised up and down like a piece of meat. I’m a happy homebody who enjoys her own company, independence and peaceful, drama free lifestyle. However, that’s not to say I wouldn’t welcome a relationship but I’m only willing to renounce my single status for a man who can fearlessly open his heart. Someone who is strong enough to be vulnerable – A modern day warrior who can show me who he is without his walls and armour – I’m looking for a hero
I hang out quite a bit on social media. I love my online vibe tribe. We have a, beautiful, inspiring connection, sharing a passion to lift humanity and the planet. The other topic that gets thrown around is the fact that many of us are single. The men often lamenting about how us women have set our standards way too high and us ladies wondering, where the hell are all the heart connected men hiding?
If my inbox is any indication, I believe the problem here lies in the initial approach that many men have when they decide to reach out to the woman who has flipped their interest. They see a woman they like, maybe it’s her smile, her energy or her passion for life and decide to test the waters. So, they decide to reach out half-heartedly in a nonchalant manner, unwilling to risk rejection and gauge the level of interest by just sticking their big toe in the water.
Maybe they send a casual message just saying, “Hi beautiful” or “Are you single?” or “Can I teach you Tantra?” – I’m laughing because believe me, I’ve heard them all. These introductions lack depth and originality. They are just not to stop the girl of your dreams dead in her tracks and make her go – “Wow, I really feel I want to get to know this guy better.”
If you really want to impress your crush and explore if she’s open to getting to know you better, you’re going to have to dig deeper and give her something special. Oh boy I can hear you saying, more flowers, chocolates, fancy restaurants – Well no actually, that’s definitely not going to win the heart of a woman with any depth, and what I’m suggesting you give her cannot be bought with any credit card or impressive bank balance either. If she’s an awakened woman, you’re just not going impress her with your shiny car, bulging biceps, cheesy words or corny memes.
Right from the start she’s going to want to know if you can fearlessly open your heart…. That’s what she’s looking for in a man.
So be brave and give her something no one else can – Give her a piece of your heart. Give her an insight into a side of you that you don’t show to everyone else. Tell her how you feel about her and mention that you’re nervous but she’s worth taking the risk for. Be authentic and genuine, she’s not interested in flashy showmanship and you only ever going to get one chance to make that vital first impression.
Now doing that takes real guts – Warrior courage…. But she’s never going settle for anything less in a man.
Look at you, you’ve been walking the hard yards on your own spiritual journey. You’ve embraced the lessons from past relationships and grown from the inevitable pain. You know you have something special to offer her. You are unique, no one else can give her what you’ve got – After all that’s what you’re selling right? … Your heart.
And you know what? Despite your best efforts, maybe she’s still won’t reciprocate your same level of interest. But I’ll tell you one thing – You’ll have gained her respect and she’s unlikely to forget you either.
If she’s not interested, don’t see it as rejection, we can’t fall romantically in love with everyone we meet. Just look how strong you are to even allow yourself be vulnerable – Now that shows real strength as a man.
If it doesn’t work out, don’t close the door on your heart, everything is a stepping stone. Gently remind yourself that you’ve managed to wrench open your heart a tiny bit more, ready for when that one special lady who will see you as her true hero, comes along – And she will. because a man who can open his heart is in huge demand with us single goddesses.
You have absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Fearlessly show her your heart … And just maybe, you will win hers.
About the author: Karen Star is a passionate writer, poet, yogini, mother and vibrational alignment coach. She’s down to Earth with her head in the stars – Clearly from another galaxy. Speaking her truth from her heart, she delights in demystifying the bridge between quantum reality and our human experience, as we ride the highs and lows of the roller coaster through life. She lives in a reality where everything is energy and we are all dancing to the sacred music of the cosmos. Feel free to connect with Karen via her Facebook account.